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writes:Me and my ex split nearly 2 years ago.He had to move to another state hence the split.After the split i found out i was pregnant and had our baby.4 months after this he got engaged to someone else.He was always in our babys life and helped as much as he could.He moved back to our state and we have had more contact.Since he moved back and have seen alot more of eachother we realised we still love eachother, he told me, and after months of rational thinking, trying to convince myself i didnt love him as he was with someone else, i stopped fighting it and admitted i did still love him.I told him i did in a message.He didnt reply then two days later he asked how we were in a message.He totally ignored me saying that i loved him, even though hed said the same not a month before.I dont get it. I know hes with someone else but i also no he isnt happy. and we have unfinished business.I was sooooo annoyed he didnt reply so i told him he should stay away for a while as i felt a little lead on. then last week i was out with friends in a bar and low and behold he walked in.Next thing i knew he was talking to the dj and then the dj announced a dedication to "a special person" and played take that patience.It must of been aimed at me. I knew it was, so did my friends.What does this mean , or am i reading to much into this? he is being so confusing with his actions!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2012): "He is confusing me with his actions, what does this mean?"
He is willing to use your shared spawn as an excuse to weasel his way back into your affections with the sole intent and purpose of indefinitely stringing you along for casual sex strictly for his pleasure and strictly at his convenience with absolutely no obligation and absolutely no commitment whatsoever on his part, but only if you agree to it.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (29 October 2012):
 Saying he still loves you does not mean anything if he can't back it up with action. He probably said that just to get you to say you love him too, and that's why he didn't follow up with what you two should be doing. He probably broke off with his fiancee so he is using you to not feel alone. Whether he is now single or not does not matter. His abandoning you two years ago would not let you reignite another relationship because you just can't trust him. Talking to a DJ requesting a song is very easy, it took little to no effort. Don't fall for this. His words are not worth you investing any more for him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2012): He sounds like he doesn't know who or what he wants. I hope you've taken him to court for child support. I would get along for the sake of the child, but don't let him play with your emotions. If he loves you, he wouldn't be engaged to someone else.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (28 October 2012):
 Does he pay child support?
The rest of the question, you are reading too much into his actions. His actions show:
He's willing to have unprotected sex
He doesn't care all that much about being in a truly committed relationship
He's with someone
He has figured out a way to throw enough scraps to you to keep you interested and on tap for sex.
Are you really in the 30-35 age bracket? Because this question sounds as though it comes from someone who is younger than that.
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (28 October 2012):
 HI
he sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it. Keeping his fingers in all the pies! I would make it CLEAR his to play the role of father to your child and that is it, or your going to find yourself dragged into an emotional disaster. Why would YOU have to have patience? who does he think he is expecting you to hang like a peice of string whilst he sorts out if he wants you again or not? your worth more than that so tell him to sling his hook xx
Mandy x
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