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writes:Hello,I have posted a similar question asking for advice but this is what has been happening lately.Please feel free to read and tell me what your honest advice is because I am stuck and soon I don’t know what to do.Thank you.How can I make the one I really fancy (of my brother’s good mate) stop taking drugs like skunk (skunk is weed) and sniff cocaine and last drink alcohol? He obviously needs to be with someone because I no he had past problems but is so hard to see him everyday looking not normal. have spoken to my brothers but he said NEVER for me to go out with him because what he has done with other people BUT I see him now his different person he doesn’t look at other girls JUST me but just addicted to drugs. My brother was like that but he changed now his a good boy loll I do understand why my brothers too protective but like I saw him yesterday he looked at me and I know if I don’t look at him he keep looking at me because I looked at him yesterday I turned around and saw his *Eyes* on me so then I new there was something there but he wouldn’t tell me because maybe 1.My brother.2.Maybe his shy I Don’t know..He has been giving me signs that he likes me for 2weeks and its hard from what I saw today him being stoned and alcohol in his hand he is sweet lad but I am getting tired of waiting my faith in him is fading meaning I just don’t like him from today I don’t now why?.This guy has been giving me signs and I KNOW for sure he likes me BUT the problem is that he does all this above^^.I haven’t told him I really fancy him because his always on drugs. He lives down my estate.Signs he gave me:Staring at meEye brows go up when he sees meMakes me laugh.He knows am not like the other girl like e.g. wants sex are users, flirt get close to a guy. I am really kind, caring and sweet I go my own way but when it comes to liking someone really much and thinking of them 24/7 it makes me get nervous and shy to see him even talk to him because my parents no him and they no he is really nice lad but the BIG problem is that they no he is addicted to drugs. He is addicted and I mean ADDICTED drugs. How do I stop this BUT not tell him is there any signs I can do to make him not do this and change because there is NOWAY I can change him.Thanks so much girls/guys?for reading this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2009): He won't change for you! You can't "fix" him. If anything, he will drag you down!
Your brother knows better than anyone that this guy is bad news! When he is ready you help himself he will get the help he needs from professionals. Until then stay away. Don't get involved thinking that some day it will all change! It may never happen! Find someone who deserves your loving caring nature!
Good Luck!
Britt
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reader, the_phoenic +, writes (24 April 2009):
honey you are only 16-17
as young as a blooming rose,
life is still ahead of you with many many beautifull choices.., starting or even continuing any relation with a drug adict is extremly dangerous...
rethink about your situation and hopfully you well make a better choice,(( GET RID OF HIM ))
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2009): Does he want to get off the drugs or is happy to keep damaging his body? If you feel comfortable you could bring it up when you two are alone. Before you tell him you like him you should find that out. If he wants to get off the drugs he needs to do it for himself. If he doesn't want to stop then you shouldn't get involved. I'm sure you've seen the Talk To Frank ad. It's really accurate. I've seen friends on drugs and it's not nice. Maybe if he is willing to get off the drugs then you two can arrange to meet up and go on a date.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2009): Don't stay with this guy, it's trouble and you'll get pulled down with him. Your young and there are so many clean, nice, employed guy out there why on earth would you want this loser. Trust me, I dated a guy just like this and what a TOTAL waste of time it was in the end!!!!!!!
This guy needs to go into rehab and then after 3-4 years of being clean he might (wouldn't count on it) be ready for a relationship but you can't fix him no matter how much Love there is. Please, move on & be thankful you didn't get in any deeper than you are now. Once again, YOU CAN'T FIX HIM!
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reader, cls1990 +, writes (24 April 2009):
 you cant make him stop, he will only stop if he wants to
the only thing you could do is ask him if he likes doing the things he is, research the drugs he is taking & explain some negative points to them & then tell him when he is ready to stop you will be there to support him
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (24 April 2009):
 You can't stop him taking drugs! He needs professional help! Don't get involved with him! Trust me, I work in a pharmacy and I see drug addicts everyday, I know how they start and how it finishes! Stay away or else you will be ruining your life!
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