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writes:Become a bit on the side but I was there from the beggining.I met this guy when I was 16 we dated for a while but became distracted with having too much fun with my friends. Since then had always felt a little bit guilty about "blowing him off." 3 years ago I decided to track him down through facebook. We got chatting again and decided to meet up for a drink soon after. He told me he was in the Raf and his base was a 7 hour drive from our hometown. After a few months of getting to know him and a string of visits we ended up sleeping together and constantly talking on the phone. I started to develope feelings for him and suggested long distance relationship to see how things went. He said that long distance relationships didn't work and that it wouldn't be fair on me also that he would never have a long distance relationship. For months we still met up constantly and talked everyday on the phone. it got to the point where he stopped over for the weekends and declared our love for each other. on Valentines Day two years ago I found out through a friend that he had recently started a relationship with someone else but neglected to tell me. I confronted him and he didn't lie. He said that he didn't mean to hurt me but had previous history with this girl (previous history that he still wont tell me about) and that why it happened. I was heartbroken. He said he loved me and still wanted to be friends. For months we met up for coffee and called each other only as mates...til' I got a new boyfriend! He got jealous and kept telling me how much he loved me and if he could take things back he would.we started sleeping together behind our partners backs. This continued for months until I wanted more I felt guilty for cheating so ended it with my boyfriend. a few more months passed and it was all getting too much for me, I asked him to leave his girlfriend and choose me. He said he wouldn't leave his girlfriend because he wants to give it chance to work but he still wanted to see me. I said no and told him that I was going to cut all contact cos' I couldn't stand it anymore. He told me that he felt like he was being put out with the trash and he said that I was being harsh. Now I'm on my own again and been constantly hurt by this bloke but I can't get him out of my head, what should I do??? How can I believe another bloke telling me he loves me because at the moment I feel used and subjected to lies.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the honesty guys. I will take on board your advice.
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (4 August 2010):
 You had my sympathy right up until you started cheating on your boyfriend. He didn't use you. You played yourself for a fool.
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reader, BAMMM +, writes (4 August 2010):
 If he was not prepared to leave him girlfriend for you, then you must move on now.
and just because this guy wasnt a good guy doesnt mean all guys are bad!
You must be more diserning next time! watch out for the signs that will separate the good ones from the bad ones.
:)
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