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anonymous
writes:My husband and I have been married for 7 months and dated for 5 years. Recently our sex life has been few and far between. I am a very sexual person and would have sex everyday if he was in to it. He denies me sex but has no problem watching teenage porn on the internet. The other night he went to NYC to pick up his mail and rent - I called him and he said he was 20 mins from the house- 1 1/2 hours later he showed up. He said he had a few drinks in the city and pulled over to watch porn. I don't believe that for a second - I'm thinking he hit the local strip club. I love him but I am feeling very insecure about myself - I am 44 and in good shape, many of his friends tell him how lucky he is. I am so hurt by his actions. This is not the first time he has been MIA for a few hours. Feeling very deflated. Should I stay?
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reader, person12345 +, writes (10 July 2013):
 Classic porn addict behavior. Loss of sex drive and literally being unable to make a 30 minute drive without having to stop to use porn? That's addict behavior. He needs to seek help before he gets caught doing this in a public place or caught at work and fired. See this website for more info:
http://www.yourbrainonporn.com
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (10 July 2013):
Dear OP,
I think your man being home late for a little more than an hour can hardly be called going MIA. The way you tell it, he said he was there in 20' and then showed up after one hours and a half.. that's not on time, I agree, but to me that's not the same as "MIA for a few hours". What is weird is that he openly admitted to having watched porn in that time, does he realize this is hurting you?
I think it would be sad if your marriage ended after just 7 months, so maybe you both can try to work out this issue. Your problems seem to be rather new, as you describe them, so maybe this is just a rough patch. There are difficult moments in every marriage and if my parents had given up that fast, I wouldn't even exist today. Something made you want to marry this man some months ago and it wasn't in a hurry, you knew him for 5 years. That tells me there are some deeper feelings towards him, no? Or why else would you have decided to marry? Before you think about leaving, think about the next possible step, which would be talking.
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reader, R1  +, writes (10 July 2013):
 Have you talked to him about the lack of sex life? You need a really open conversation which is about sharing how you feel and not accusations. No one can say if he is lieing or telling the truth, but the paranoia seems to be stressful for you
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