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writes:me and my b/f have sex for like an hour and I can't get him to cum is there something wrong with me Reply to this Question
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reader, duskyrowe  +, writes (6 August 2007):
 An hour???? Wow lucky you !!!!! LOL. Look there is nothing wrong with you. Some guys have problems with ejaculation, cumming too fast/slow, stress can be a major issue because when it comes to lovemaking, people are not mentally in tune with their bodies during this time. And can cause problems when it comes to orgasms.
The next time you guys get intimate set the mood as relaxing as possible, take a nice bath together with candles and nice soothing music, this can be very erotic and therapeutic for both of you. Then dry each other off, caressing and stroking each other,invest in some massage oils especially with added ylang ylang, take your time there is no rush. Try not to make it mechanical, but enjoyable, the more intune you are with each other intimately the more you and him are likely to have orgasms.
Oh yeah, try out various positions, I have a few good tips here up my sleeve here, place a cushion under the small of your back whilst he is on top of you, this raises your hips for better penetration for him. Then vice-versa when you are on sitting astride him, with the cushion method. Good Luck and let me know if this has done the trick.
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reader, Beckto  +, writes (6 August 2007):
 My first guess is that it has nothing to do with you. It may just be a problem for him. Have you talked about it with him? If not, chances are that he is just as concerned about it as you are. Be the one to start the conversation, and you may be surprised how much he wants to reassure you that it has nothing to do with you.
How to start the convo? Try talking about it away from the bedroom. Bring it up sometime over a glass of wine or a dinner at home. Ask about his sexual preferences, how he likes it. Make the conversation as emotion-free and light-hearted as possible. The less pressure on him, the better. Then ask why he thinks he doesn't cum with you. Try not to make him feel guilty, and you'll get more from him.
Good luck!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (6 August 2007):
 No. He must have some unresolved psychological issues. You are simply not the problem. Talk to him and try to find a solution together, if he will agree to it, as this is like the root of problems in the future.
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