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writes:I am 16 and my girlfriend (16) of 9 months now recently went on a a weeks trip with two of her friends. I trusted her fully with her friends as she was staying with her grandparents.All was well, when she got back I asked her how it went. I found out her two mates (who already had boyfriends) had cheated on them and had gotten off with someone for a fling. My girlfriend told me that she hadn't and I still believed her. I only had slight doubts until I read messages on her phone where she had told one of the lads (out of 10 of them) that her and her mates were all single. Some of the messages made out that she was picking and choosing lads and telling him what she thought of them (boyfriend wise). I confronted her and we argued. She told me that she hadn't cheated on me and she was only doing it for fun. I still have tiny doubts to this day. I understand what those lads were trying to get from our girlfriends but it isn't there fault in the end, they didn't know they were taken. Some of these lads aren't very decent though. One was 19 and had lied about his age to have sex with a 13 year old. I can't believe my girlfriend was stupid enough to give her number to strangers, let alone other boys.Ever since I read these text I have been really insecure. I find myself checking her messages on her phone and on emails. I get really worried when I don't know where she is and dread her talking to other boys who I don't know. I know its wrong and I wish i wasn't like this but is it my fault?? Do you think it's okay to act like this after what she did on holiday?The biggest problem is that my girlfriend is going back to that place for another holiday soon. I don't know if I can trust her. The place she is going is really small like a village and the chances of her bumping into tose lads again are highly likely. Plus, she's going for a week longer this time. I don't want to be too clingy and lose her over my insecurity. Please answer.
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reader, so_in_love +, writes (6 August 2007):
I went on holiday a month or so ago with 3 friends, I was the only single one who went. I had a holiday thing with some lad, and two of my other mates did with boyfriends, however, one didn't, she wouldn't do that to him. Although your girlfriends 2 friends might have gone off with some lads, there is a chance she didn't. These guys shes texting could be the mates of the guys her mates got with, she could've just got on with them well.
If you don't want to loose her try and not be so insecure, I know theres still a chance she did, but shes not going to tell you about it, my advice would be to try and forget it. If she didn't want you, you wouldn't be together, she must have strong feelings for you.
Good luck xxxx
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