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writes: me and my ex were together for two years, he broke up with me. i blocked him on facebook broke off all contact for my benefit.3 months later now. we work together so i occasionaly have had to bump into him not biggy i have kept my cool and behaved professionally.i heard he was in a relationship on the grapevine,we have mutual friends.shortly after he turns up at work when i am working, he is not.he was just everywhere, i do not pick up on things fast, as i can be quite blonde. so when i thought he was looking at me from behind the bar i thought i was being paranoid.but he made it obvious, he was infront of the bar, i went in the back to check my phone came back he was just staring. he was then in the back shortly after i walked in to put some glasses away, he said hi, i thought i dont really want to talk to you but perhaps i should. i said hi, then went back to the bar.after that he was just constantly at the bar,if he wasn't he circulated between the bar and the kitchen. this was for two hours. i then went to the cellar to get some wine, he was there shortly after changing the barrel despite he was not on shift!i behaved indifferent. obviously i still care for him but i refused to show this. i just dont get it. he broke my heart and then turns up at work when he is not working. i just think he is trying to mess with my head. what is he playing at?
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (22 January 2012):
 Talk to your boss, ask him if it is policy for people not rostered on to work having access to all areas. Let your boss know you were uncomfortable having your ex following you to the back and to the cellar when he was on premises as a customer, not employee.
He could be playing with your head in retaliation for you blocking him on facebook, is he the sort to do this?
I can imagine him hanging around while you are working is making life uncomfortable for you, if your boss can't help by limiting his access to staff only areas maybe you should start looking around to see what other work is available.
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reader, Kyle007  +, writes (22 January 2012):
Work is not a good place for you to be talking. You need to set up some boundaries. He could just be wanting to make peace with you seeing as you are at work and are forced to be in contact.
Talk to him outside of work and let him know that you want your contact to be minimal.
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