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writes:Hi me and my partner were together for 19 years , and had 2 kids , we both now have a child each . we split up 13 months ago and she is now pregnant .i was in hospital and when i came home she had left, it was 2 weeks before i found out that she was living with a neighbor who had left his wife and family . She meant the world to me and to be honest still does, i just cant seem to move on or make sense of it . as we had been planning our wedding and 6 months before the affair started she had been showing her family dresses and churches . how do i make sense of that. 2 years ago i had confronted her over texting a number she said it was just a work college that got out of hand i had let it go , as we both got a fright and thought we were lossing each other . but the longer it went on i made out something had happened and couldnt let it go . she changed her number and said he no longer works there, but i didnt believe, and long and be hold it turned out to be a neighbor , she had said it all stoppped that time i found out and it was just texting, but said then i wouldnt let it go. so she started meeting him 6 months later. how do you get over that , with in 14 months of getting married to a girl i was with since she was 17, to now sharing kids , and she having a child from someone else
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2011): Something similar happened to me. My partner left after 18 years and was in another relationship within three weeks. Found out she had been cheating. I think she probably did you a favour, if she can move on that quickly she couldn't have lived you that much. It will be hard to move on, but you have to get out and about and just let her eat her own medicine. Good luck
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reader, mammaboo +, writes (28 November 2011):
 Oh my gosh this is a horrible situation!Thirteen months isn,t along time to get over a relationship of 19 years. It will take you a while but i suggest you get out there and meet some new friends. She will mean alot to you for a very long time. There are people out there though that will make you move on and will have the sensitvity to help you through this. So long as your heart stays open and you are not stuck in your ways to much,there is light at the end of the tunnel!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (28 November 2011):
 All I can say is that life sometimes sucks. It will do you no good to focus on the past. She is not returning, and if she did things would not be the way they used to be. She has a child by another man now.
This kind of things hurt a lot, but it's best if we put them behind us.
I think you will be able to find someone else.
Good luck.
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