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anonymous
writes:My ex and I broke up about 6 months ago, which she went back to her ex (whom is the father of her child). I was assured it was over, and I begged her to come back. She suddenly comes back with a paper showing a divorce, and wanting to start again. I have no problem with it, but while we were apart, I had a one night stand. The girl got pregnant, and my ex shut completely down. She wants nothing to do with me, yet she was with her baby's daddy when he had a child by another woman. What is so wrong? We were apart!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (12 April 2013):
 I agree with Cindy. I think she most likely doesn't want to have a relationship with someone who has unprotected sex at the drop of the hat. I certainly can't blame her. And I certainly hope you plan to support your child, tax payers are getting maxed out.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (12 April 2013):
 She has no right to complain or hold it against you. You were apart. However, she does not have to accept it or go back into a relationship with you. Things have changed dramatically since you were first together, now there's another woman and another child is on the way. The situation has changed, and she's not obliged to accept it.
She just doesn't want to have a relationship with you now that you have a baby on the way, it seems. And you can't blame her, that's a very different situation than if you hadn't gotten that one night stand pregnant.
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (12 April 2013):
 Your GF has no grounds to complain as she walked away from you and she must understand life goes on. When she came back, she should be prepared to accept you were with other woman. Its probably best this is over as you will never know if your GF will go back to her ex even a couple years later.
You should focus on being a dad as that is now your priority and responsibility.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (12 April 2013):
 Maybe it's nothing personal, - perhaps it's precisely because she already went through all the bady daddy baby mama baby drama , that now she does not want to have to deal with the same again.
Plus, not every girl likes the kind of guy who has casual one night stands- and unprotected one night stands ! , which end up in pregnancy , as for that. Sort of makes you wonder . I know that these things happen, at your age, and it's not a crime or something horrible, yet... she does not HAVE to like it.
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