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writes:Hey everyone... I have a quick question.So my best friend ( x ) and I were both single. She met a Guy and we both was happy about it. Because who wants to be alone all the time? So when she was dating him, like very happy. She would pick him over me but I didn't mind at first because she Really liked him. But after a while she was throwing him in my favorite all the time. Like of I say Hey x do u want to go to the mall? Or club? She will say I Have a man there's no meed for me To go to a club! And I would say Ummm ok?! Or she will say I'm with my man so maybe some other time. I never said anything. So then one time i said my other best friend ( Y ) was coming into town and x says you better get her to help you find a man! So i was like wow ok cool with me. 3 months later the guy dumped her, and y is coming back into town, so we can hang out and get our nipples pierced lol. But x keeps telling me she's lonely and That she wants to go to the club and to be honest I don't want to go to the club with her right now. Why should I go to the club with her? When I wanted to go she was saying she had no reason to go. So I don't want to go, ill go with y because she went with my when x didn't want to go. So my question is, should I treat my best friend the way she treated me? Should I brush her off a little?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks! And to Aunt honesty- I have been in her shoes but I never brushed her off. I made time for her also. I would never dothat to my friends because guys come and go. But now she wants to do things with me and I'm thinking should I? But thanks again
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 October 2011):
 Well really it is totally up to you on what you want to do. Although I don't agree with X's behaviour. It is so easy for a person when they get a boyfriend to ditch there friends and spend all there time with there boyfriend because they feel they are in love and want to spend every moment together. Off course this is not fair on you, but it is really common for young people to behave like this. It is your choice now weather you want to forgive her or not. But have you ever been in her shoes were you have been in a relationship? I guess she needs to know though how she has made you feel, so in any case you need to tell her that she has upset you.
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reader, Molly0102  +, writes (4 October 2011):
I used to have a friend like that and she always chose her boyfriends over me. The only time she ever comes to me is when there's really nobody to hang out with her. In the end our friendship didn't work out (but that wasn't the only factor contributing to the demise of our friendship) I think it would be better to talk things over with your friend and tell her how you feel when she treats you this way. A true friend would listen and try to be more sensitive. So you should probably include her in you and y's outings for the time being and use this opportunity to tell her your feelings. If she still doesn't change the next time she has a new bf, you're probably better off without her.
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