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writes:Is there anything wrong dating a girl 4 years older than you are.I am 22 and and this girl is 26 and i believe she does love me because anytime we are together she likes touching me,she'll like to rub her hands around my body. At times she'll try to kiss me and later withdraw.and i've started developing feelings for her too that i always do like to be with her sometimes due to alll what she does to me. I do know she loves me too. I don't know if it'll be right to give in to her. For sometimes the age difference do annoy me sometimes but am begining to have some feelings for her.please help me agony aunts will it be right to give in to her advances.please i do need your help.thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, T.R.  +, writes (20 January 2012):
Coming from someone that's always been attracted to women older than I am (my current GF is 8 years older), as long as she's not put off by the age difference (and in your case, it sounds like she is fine with it) then I'd say go for it... Besides, 4 years in your 20s really isn't that much of a difference.
The only issues I've ever run into are when you're at different points in life. For instance, a discussion I had with my GF was about kids. She's concerned that I'll want them and she's past that point in her life (she already has one and doesn't want another). But as long as you're both honest with yourselves and each other about what you really want then everything will be fine. Honestly, at 22 and 26, I doubt something like this even comes up....
Good luck, man.
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reader, erico +, writes (20 January 2012):
erico is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks for your responses i am really certain that she does love me passionately and my feelings for her is growing the more.from our previous dialogues she confessed to me that she's reserved and a virgin as well likewise me and she had hardly hooked up with a guy but she,s indeed beautiful and very youthful for her age.and the other question is should i consider what she told me and go for her.please help once more.am indeed very grateful for your answers.thanks
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reader, uroboros  +, writes (16 January 2012):
the older you get, the less important the age different becomes, and less visible. she is just 26, you are both in your "mid twenties", i wouldn't be that bothered :)
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reader, PerhapsNot +, writes (16 January 2012):
 It's not much of an age difference now. The only negative that I can think of (and that I have seen as well) is that most women her age will want to get engaged and settle down. By 30, sometimes a bit earlier, they will want to start having children. If either one of those things seem unappealing to you in the next 3 years, tread carefully.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (16 January 2012):
 I just asked my fiance if he thought it was too much of a gap... he said... "NO, after all you're THIRTEEN years older than me..."
if you are both in your 20s i think it's fine...
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reader, Kyle007 +, writes (16 January 2012):
Four years is really not a large age difference. If you were 14 and she was 18 I would say it was, but you are both adults in your 20s.
You have to admit to yourself that there is some other reason that you are resisting her advances and reconcile that with yourself.
After all, if she is making advances on you, its obvious that the age difference is not an issue for her.
So if you can reconcile once and for all that you want this woman, then make your own advance, or if she makes any more half-hearted advances, just let her know its alright, even if you have to say it verbally.
Have fun!!
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reader, Emily20 +, writes (16 January 2012):
 Ok,heres what u do,i want u to really find out if she truely love,or maybe wants to just have a flink with u and,live u,if u love her go for it,love does not keep time of age,it only suffers with how u spent it,my dear,if u find out she truely love u,make sure u be the first to make a move,so that u could be the man,because she is your senior if she make a move you become her pet little boy,i want you to be a man,make you move,tell her how u feel about her and be the man,just be careful ok so u dont get hurt be wise.goodluck
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