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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes: Dear all, I request your advice on my situation. In a way it is silly.I am married and very happy about family life. I have this female friend at work whom I like very much. she is 10 year younger than me and is at the age to get married. We are good friends and used to talk open. Recently she is showing interest in me. I wanted her to be talking with my wife at least on phone, bit the girl is not willing.I think if she speak to my wife she will understand that it not right to proceed with what she thinks.As I started advicing she is angry on me.The whole thing is killing a smooth loving friendship.What is the best that I could do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2013): Dear All,
Thankyou for your mentions.
I am pulling back from this friendship.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (9 August 2013):
 Stop being friendly, treat her like you do any other colleague.
She DOESN'T have to befriend your wife or even talk to her.
If she is crossing boundaries YOU need to be the GROWN up and shut it down, nip it in the bud.
She isn't a friend - she is an attention whore.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (8 August 2013):
 Here's the thing, your flirty coworker doesn't have to acknowledge your marriage. That's your job. It's also in your best interest to stop this "friendship" with this woman, before your marriage is in trouble.
Her intentions aren't pure or innocent. She's trying to take you away from your wife. Cease friendly contact with her, and keep it strictly professional.
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reader, lonelyandconflicted +, writes (8 August 2013):
she wants your penis and you are some what playing with fire with even entertaining the thoughts of her desires.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (8 August 2013):
 This woman is a danger to your marriage. She is not your friend, so forget about having a smooth loving friendship with her, because as long as she refuses to talk with, meet or even acknowledge your wife she is disrespecting you, your life and who you are.
Talk to your wife, because if this woman is getting angry when you suggest SHE talks to your wife, she may become nasty and vindictive and cause problems.
If you are not sure how to tell your wife, show her your question. Once she is aware of the situation, your wife and you will be able to work out how to proceed, as a team.
This other woman is only bad news, talk to your wife as soon as you can.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2013): I suggest for you to not to bother. Stop being too friendly to her. Minimize times talking to her. She is evil.
Act like you don't care. For heaven's sake your married.
You really don't need emotional attachment to a flirty friend.
Your a one in a million man. hopefully you stay faithful to your wife because that girl at your work is no class at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2013): You are happily married, so turn this work colleague away!
She does not want to acknowledge your marriage or be friends with your wife, which shows what her intentions are.
Keep away, set up boundaries in your interactions with her, and keep things strictly professional from now on, or else you will have problems that will never end and people will get hurt.
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