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writes:Ok hear goes nothing. I have a boyfriend, an awesome guy who I really love. "Lila" one of my best friends, has a boyfriend, "Kel", another best friend, had a boyfriend, emphasis on the had, but she's ok. "Jay", my best friend of eight years, has not had a boyfriend, and the fact that all her friends do is killing her. I tried. Lila tried. Kel tried. Jay tried. Jay is really pretty but she won't admit it, she's smart when she wants to be, and when she tries she's awesome at sports, when she tries. If you don't know Jay you see a short, not exactly skinny brunette with glasses. Kel, Lila, and I love Jay like a sister, and she wants a boyfriend, only problem is they keep saying no and she hasn't narrowed her list of guys she likes down to less than five since she first became interested in guys. Guy #1 a popstar- she never shuts up about him, keeps talking constantly about this celebrity, I'm not sure if the mods would take it off if I put the guy's name so I didn't but the celebrity in my opinion (and most guys that I know opinions) this singer sucks he's a 14 or 15 (I don't know or care)year old brunette with a high squeaky voice and a ton of rap songsGuy #2 Short, black haired, emo and has a girlfriend two years older than him. Jay has repeatedly cooed over him, flirted and tried to steal him away from his girlfriend but to no avail.Guy #3 one of my boyfriend's friends, this unusual guy with curly brown hair (he wears an Afro comb in it), freckles, he's an eagle scout, pretty athletic, and short, and strange.Guy #4 Kel's ex of many times, after each break up Jay has tried for him, Kel has gotten furious, then they fight, then Kel and the guy get back together, then they break up again. This time they're broken up and Jay hasn't done or said anything, yet.Guy #5 my boyfriend's best friend, he's weird, goofy and smart but only when he wants to be.SO fellas, what does a girl have to do to get your attention? How can I help Jay? Jay is really depressed and longing for a relationship, she's having a hard time at home because her parents are splitting up and they want to put her in private school or cyber school her because her grades are dropping (I'm tutoring her with some success but they still want her pulled out of public school) We've tried explaining to her that life will go on, that she has all the time in the world to get a boyfriend, but since we've all had them the words are hollow. I really need help here, I need some advice, none of us want to see Jay suffering like this! Please help.
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reader, KeighleySky  +, writes (17 May 2010):
 First of all you need to reassure her that boys aren't everything. She shouldn't let her grades drop becasue she wants a boyfriend. The time will come and she will get the right boy but you need to tell her that if she rushes it she's going to end up hurt because some boy will see her desperation and take advantage of her. Dont let this happen, i have never regretted anything more than not lectruing my friends on their crappy boyfriends. She has to concentrate on herself and all that you can do is be there for her in this horrible time with her parents. Show her that you all love her and that you'll be there for her if she needs you.
Tell her she's beautiful and that there is a guy out there who will appreciate her for who she is :) x
please keep me posted on how she's doing x
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reader, scotfish +, writes (16 May 2010):
 hi, there is nothing that you do to "make" anybody like anybody, those kinds of feelings are felt for somebody or not. The most that anybody can do is to take pride in the way they look, be as comfortable with yourself as you can and thats about it that might help with getting attention but after that there is little anybody can do, its most likely not the news you or anybody ever wants to hear, and i know the feeling very well to make a girl like me, so many many people will go through this at some point or another in there lives, hope all goes well for your friend there will be somebody out there for her
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