Fallen for my old classmate but now he ignores me.

A female age 51-59, *aria sarah writes:

Good morning. I met my high school classmate online after 37 years. He is married for 30 years. He said he had an affair with two married women while his wife was working abroad. He became alcoholic too. And with the help of her mom, he ended into a rehabilitation center for 2 years. After 2 years he was released from that center and learned a lot inside the place and went abroad for work and live together with his eife and children. I don't know what happened to me I was trapped by his kindness, thoughtfullness, he knows everything with my kids. By the way, I am married with 3 kids but living with my kids separated from my husband since 2014 but our martiage is not annuled. Going back to my old classmate, we fell in love with each other and had an online relationship for 6 months. we are chatting everyday from morning, going to work, during breaktime and lunch break until he drive home then the same thing for the next day. We fid it gir 6 months. He was very honest to me and even helped me financially. He is living with his wife but not in good terms before I came to his life. He also mentioned that the marriage between him and his wife only happened accidentally because they were both drunked when something happened between them and that time he had a girlfriend and he left her because the other girl was pregnant. But still, with his caring everyday I fell in love with him. we even discussed the consequences that might happen and one time I asked him if he is going to choose between me and his wife he said he is going to choose me and he did it. Three days ago he talked to his family and had this courage to tell them that he will move out from their house, besides his children have their own way of living and decided to transfer to another place for work. And from that day my boyfriend became sad after choosing me and keep telling me that his mother is so mad at him because he did this cheating from his wife for the 3rd time. We had a plan to bring me in his town to introduce me in his family esoecially to his mother maybe 2 or 3 years from now that's why we keep our relationship secret. But then he began thinking negative and told me that he really loves me that's why he chose me over his wife and the only thing he is guilty is that he and his wife haven't argued and then all of a sudden he decided to choose me. The last time we talked was 3 days ago. And after that he bagan ignoring me but his last message to me he said that he really loves me but he is worried for his mother because she is angry with him, for what he did to his wife. I sent many messages and voice record, he already seen it but not replying. Now I have so much pain. I cried day and night almost every hour and even can't sleep. Help me please. Do you think he still loves me? what is the best thing for me to do I feel si much pain because I know that he really loves me. But why he is ignoring my messages? Maybe he needs space? or he realized his mistakes and wants to forget me? By the way, we haven't seen each other personally for 37 years. We see each other online. please help me overcome this feeling. thanks.

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