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writes:i know.i messed up. i know i hurt people. i just want advice though. okay sorry if this is long.i fell fast and hard for a male friend. well i wanted to find out if he was insterested in anyone without him knowing i liked him.so i made a fake fb account and added him as a friend. well we started talking and i said i was deleting the fb account because i felt i'd taken the whole thing too far. well he gave me his number and we have been talking every day for 6 weeks. like a hundred msgs a day. any way long story short I was going to Set him up with a friend then say they changed their mind. it was only meant to make him see what i was like. problem? last night when i asked who here wanted me to set him up with he said the fake me. i said yes. this other girl doesnt exist though. well the real me on fb said i was going to right my wrongs but would lose a a lot of friends. he said no one who does that deserves to be forgiven just for having the courage to do it.so my question is should i tell the truth or just never reply to the other msgs to the fake me.? he said the reason he wanted me is we like all the same things which we do. so u guess after msging each other hundred msgs a day for so long. im stuck. what do i do??i never meant to hurt anyone. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2012): i think you should tell him the truth. but try not to make it sound as creepy as it is. like tell him you really like him but knew nothing about him, so the fake profile was to find out his interests etc to see if he was worth pursuing. but obviously it went too far (the texting constantly).apologise for that. then you could tell him your sorry it wasnt meant to go that far and say if he still wants to keep in touch ud like that, if not wish him well. then its upto him. he may be angry and upset and never want anything to do with u but shrug it off, put it down to experience and dont do it again. decieving never pays off im not sure why u thought it could? youl move on and remember theres more fish in the sea.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (30 December 2012):
 Here's your options:
1. Tell the truth. If the tables were turned and some guy made a fake FB account making you fall in love with the fake person, you'd be pretty mad when you found out it was all an act. You'd feel lied to and cheated, not being able to trust the person you were really talking to. You be an ADULT, apologize for your wrong doing, learn from it, and move on.
2. Delete the fake FB account and NEVER make another one.
Now which one you choose is your choice. Either way, a lesson is to be learned here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe have only been talking. Via text for the last few weeks mainly. Plus the fake me had. A. Gf when we first started talking. So even. As. Friends we bacame close. If i suddenly. Just stop talking. To him im sure he would report me as missing to check if i was. Ok. Do i tell the truth, ?
or just try to make. Him hate. Me so he. Wont talk to me anymore. ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2012): how about if the fake you just tells him that 'you' met someone and the new bf doesn't like you being on FB so that's why you're going to delete your (fake) FB account.
I mean, given enough time the guy you like will eventually forget about the fake you.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (28 December 2012):
Even though you never meant to hurt anyone, you did. Making a fake profile and tricking a person is very deceitful. That person thinks they're talking and maybe falling in love with who they see on the fake profile. When you two finally meet up in person, what you see is not what you get. You've been lying all this time, and he doesn't know who you really are.
You wouldn't want someone to make a fake profile and play with your feelings, so don't do it to other guys. Confess about the profile and he may forgive you. You won't be able to drag this lie out forever.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (28 December 2012):
 With your followup, I'm thinking he might know it's you.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (28 December 2012):
Take this as a lesson, you could have started out as yourself because clearly he likes you/your messages. I bet if you had just been up front about it, he would have gone out with you. You're in your 20's, not your teens, so this was a very immature thing to do.
I think you just need to say it's you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question"noone who does that deserves to be forgiven " was meant to be "anyone who does that deserves to be forgiven just for having the courage to tell the truth"
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reader, Serpico +, writes (28 December 2012):
The next time I see a positive thing come from FB or Twitter will be the first.
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