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writes:My potential mate has an ex wife. After 5 and a half years, they divorced. They have a 5 year old daughter.He likes me and he wants me to be his girlfriend but I have a few issues with his ex wife.While she was married to him, sought attention from her ex husband's teenage admirers on twitter and instagram by leaking photos of herself at bars and pictures of their daughter.She became very well known on the internet among her ex husband's fans by launching fake makeup companies of fashion at her home city and by publicizing them on twitter.While being married, she never talked about her ex husband on twitter or facebook.But after her separation and divorce, she has taken another turn. Earlier her facebook used to be private but after divorce, she has started making all her profile pictures public.She also publicly told her friends two weeks ago that shes going to CA, where shes going with her daughter and ex husband.She also follows her own fanpages on facebook and twitter.Also whenever she comes to her attend her ex husband's public shows, she sits in a place where the camera catches her easily and her ex husband's fans spot her,and immediately after the show gets over, she logins on her twitter and starts replying to the ex husband's fans, saying how shes proud of him and posting his pics saying how their daughter is proud to see him.She went to Disneyland with him and their daughter but at times,her ex husband was seen alone.She also made him wear her self made mens bracelets to a party only when there are lots of cameras around. Otherwise he never wears it on every day basis.I guess its for people to notice those off as she wasn't able to sell those stuff at all and she made way too many of themAnd she also attended his public show and just 45 mins later after the show was over, she logged in on twitter and said shes so proud of him to a fan.She was the first person to unfollow him on instagram as well. But she acts soo 'nice' on twitter.Her ex husband is a bit obsessed with public image too. He had a reputation of a happily married man. He secretly got divorced and nobody got the wind of their separation and divorce till June, as he kept lying about being happily married. Some guessed it because they took off their wedding rings though.Since hes divorce became public, he likes to show people hes still on good terms with his ex wife by bringing her to his shows.Also this Disneyland trip also happened after his divorce became public.Otherwise he had many weekends off and he never brought them. But that's it because he doesn't hang out with her much.Why is she doing this? Isn't this person an attention seeker?And if shes so hungry or crazy after attention, do you think she ll hurt or harm her ex husband's gfs or wife or me as she wont be the center of attention completely after he remarries?I am not comfortable with her antics because she seems really obsessed to be in limelight through him.What to do? Theres so much drama going on here. Whats the deal with his ex? Shes not showing any genuine support if she responds to her fans immediately after people start talking about her.Some people say what kind of divorce is this if ex hubby isnt removing his tatt, wearing exs bracelet, letting her be at his shows, till the kid is accepted but beyond?
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reader, hedwig29 +, writes (22 August 2013):
hedwig29 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAnon- Umm no. The divorce was finalized on the basis as the marriage being 'irretrievably broken' And they are emotionally over each other.
Because they kept cheating on each other. Especially the man so wheres the emotion?
Its no new chapter in their story because hes already moved on to other women.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2013): I don't think they have emotionally separated from each other, it seems like the divorce was just to give them each some breathing space (such as not living together) which may actually help them to keep fond memories of each other.
I think it's too early to be in a relationship with him since he isn't finished with his marriage, it's just a new chapter in their story.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (20 August 2013):
 I'm not "taking her side" I'm just looking at if from how you write it. YOU write ALL about her faults and her almost "stalker" behavior - when SHE shouldn't be your MAIN focus. HE should be.
HE cheated on her MULTIPLE times - but in your opinion that is OK because she is obviously nuts and only interested in his "fame" rubbing off on her?
And even with being on the road 200 days a years, if she is hat nuts... DO you blame him for trying to keep her close for the sake of his child?
I can only go by what you write and how I interpret it.
You seem to fall into the trap of HATING the ex in hopes of it somehow makes you a keeper.
I could VERY well be wrong, not saying I'm right. Just saying.. YOU focus on the wrong end of the stick.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (20 August 2013):
 There's 'way too much drama in the goings-on that you describe......
WHY would anyone want to put themselves in the middle of THAT (that drama).... when, instead, they can indulge in a real life of common sense and not a lot of intrigue and goofiness??????
Good luck....
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reader, hedwig29 +, writes (20 August 2013):
hedwig29 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHoneypie- You are wrong on many places. First she isn't that SIMPLE. So stop taking her side.Her moves are very calculated. She isn't that innocent to share everything with her fans. Almost everyone has started calling her schizophrenic because her antics.Only after divorce? She logged in just 45 minutes after the show because she knows people will ask her about him. And that's how she seeks attention.Her COMPANY has already failed. But shes still trying to sell her bracelets because she made too many of them. And she doesn't get many buyers. She now works at a real estate company.Also she has sole and legal custody of their daughter as ex husband is on road 200 days. Also,hes OVER her. He had been cheating on her for years and she was OK with it because she wanted money and lifestyle. But something happened and he divorced herThis COULD be for public because since hes split is public this trip came up. When it wasnt public, he didnt take them on any trips.Also he OBVIOUSLY doesnt want her to be a part of it much because he never responds to any of her antics. Its just regarding his daughter. And he is already into me and was dating a girl before as well.So you got it all WRONG.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (20 August 2013):
You seem almost obsessed with his wife, to be honest.
She can't MAKE him wear her bracelets unless HE wants to. He is an adult and I'm sure he is capable of saying no, even to his ex-wife. So either he is trying to "help" her launch her company or he is trying to be nice, or... he likes the bracelet.
IF HE invites her to go along on his shows, it could be for several reasons. 1. HE isn't over her. 2. HE wants to ensure he gets to see his child. 3. BOTH 4. She is somehow useful to him.
The trip to Disney? He wanted to go and see his child's joy. She wanted to come too and he saw no reason to say no.
Do you know ANYTHING about the divorce? Who has custody? Shared?
As for the being friendly, I think that is more for the CHILD'S benefit then for the public eye. A 5 year old need both parents if she/he has them.
She can STILL be proud of her ex-husband. A divorce doesn't mean you aren't allowed to admire their talents/skills/achievements. What is wrong in that? Being all over Twitter with it? *shrug* some people live on Social Sites, it's the only way they can feel validated.
They have ONLY been divorced a short time, I would NOT date a guy til I KNEW for a fact he is really OVER the ex. They still have a lot of things to figure out and work out.
They share a child and a SMALL child at that. So it's not like they can just ignore each other. For some this works, but it can affect the child.
Unfortunately, Exes aren't votes of the island and sent into exile. So IF you plan to date this guy, you are going to have to accept the ex wife being a part of the picture, because he OBVIOUSLY wants her to be part of it.
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