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30-35,
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writes:So I met this women at a bar back in January. I got her number and started texting each other. She did most of the texting at first. We texted every day until I finally got to meet her in person in February. Everything was great. We really connected in every aspect. I stayed the night with her since I'm stationed four hours away. We talked about everything including our goals and future. Everything seemed great but there were a couple of issues. We both had just got out of a relationship and weren't looking to juMp into another so quick. She was also upset that I lived four hours away. But what really upset her was that she was way older than me. And she felt like I lied to her about my age (which did and apologized for it. She ended up forgiving me but said she didn't trust me because I lied and that I would have to earn it back ( which I did). She said I was to young for her and would accuse me of being a womanizer. I knew I was gonna have to make the effort and actually win her back into my arms.But even after all those problems Once again everything seemed fine. We worked out our difference. We continued to texted each other everyday. I would drive to her house every other weekend and spend it with her. Every time we were together it was a blast. I felt like we were really connected emotionally and physically. We just had fun and laughed a lot when we were together. She would cook for me and Little by little she would introduce me to her sisters. No matter how busy we both were we always found time for each other. We even made appointments together to get tattooed (no tatt names). It was like we were in a relationship just without the label. I really started to fall for this women. Fast foreword to this month. Which is why I'm writing this post. This month was gonna be a busy month for the both of us. She had personal family things that were gonna take up most of her time. I had a my Bday coming up (which she knew about) and had previous plans for. I also had have a major surgery coming up. We both decided to care of personal stuff and that meet back up on the following week before my surgery. I purposely didn't text her bc I knew she was gonna be stressed out and busy. We went a week without talking to each other. She didn't even wished me happy bday( which didn't really upset me). What really upset me was that Late that Saturday night I asked if I could call her. She never responded. I texted her goodnight. I got nothing. The next morning I asked her the why she was giving me the cold shoulder in a jokingly way. She was very short and serious and acted defensive. Her only response was that she was busy. And told me to stop being a butt (which is our little joke) I feel like she blew me off like dirt. I feel disrespected. I haven't talked or texted her since (and I don't plan on texting her back). I'm hurt. I really started to fall for this girl. Why is acting like this??? Please help...
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (12 April 2015):
 I think Olderthandirt has a point with the age thing.
I don't think she took it as serious as you did, as getting tattoos after less than 3 months? Seriously?
Honestly, I'd let this one go. And next time 1. don't omit your age or lie about it and 2 if they bring up stuff like they aren't ready to date then DO NOT try and date them.
Sorry.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (12 April 2015):
 The First hint was when she said you were too young for her(BIG RED FLAG) Sounds like you'll be better off without her. You may have been willing to invest your emotions but it sounds like she was still stinging from a bad relationship. Better luck next time..lots more fish in the sea as they say.
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