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anonymous
writes:Hi there I am really suffering in many ways. I was seeing a guy after a very bad break up which led myself and partner abroad only to realise that we were not compatible living together. It was heartbreaking. I went back to uk he stayed in Australia. I then met a lovely guy who I clicked so well with! We went out and spent a lot of time together. Then after our last date about a month ago things went really strange between us for no obvious reason. Texts have been exchanged but they are all very polite and not to the point of knowing where I stand! He is not seeing anyone else and neither am I. I am really hurt by it and have become obssessed thinking about it, it's starting to ruin my life!! I see him too as we have mutual friends which makes it even harder. I have to get a new job because our company is not doing well and I am just not in the frame of mind to do this, i was not happy at work anyway so perhaps this kick is what I need. But at the moment I feel very depressed and down. I don't know how much bad luck I can have! Especially with men. I am attractive and fun and men like me but each time it does not work out it gets me down more each time. No one I know has any idea how I am feeling! Maybe I should go and talk to someone? Xx
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reader, kellyO +, writes (30 September 2012):
 Hi,
Sorry to hear that you are depressed. Maybe for now u should focus on sorting out the job issue. It will be a great confidence booster if you can find a job you love. This will also give you opportunity to meet new people through work.
As for the relationship issue I am afraid that is what dating is all about. It can result to heartbreaks until we find the right one. But the risk is worth it in the end. Be patient with yourself this has nothing to do with your luck. Also it is always best to give yourself time after a bad break-up before starting a new relationship to sort out feeling and recover emotionally.
As you suggested you can also try talking to someone. My other advise is that you might need to get extra support from family as well. You could also try making new friends or taking up a hobby you enjoy where you can meet new people.
Hugs
Kelly
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