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Drunk party made me spill my secrets in front of my bestfriend! Help?

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Question - (25 October 2011) 4 Answers - (Newest, 26 October 2011)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:

Well first of all yes i know i am underage but hey just thought id have abit of fun it isn't like i do it all the time so please do not lecture me about drinking i know the effects and what i am about to say i did bring it upon myself.

Well as Halloween is apporaching me and my friend decieded to have a little bit of a party and we had some vodka things were fun at first but then we started drinking more i got really drunk and when im drunk i end up being abit loose tounged.

I told my friend all of my secrets and some things i had never told anyone before i told him i could be bisexual and about past abuse and well now i really regret it i feel like ive made a total ass out of myself.

Just to make matters worse i tryed to come on to him about 8 times and got changed into my pyjama top infront of him and went on a massive downer afterwards.yeah i am mega embarassed.

When we woke up he said that he couldn't remember anything but i think he can and just saying that so i don't get upset. When i'm not drunk im genrally a shy person i don't have much confidence and i keep everything to myself achool has the opposite effect.

Things aren't arkward between us thank god but i don't know what to do as i'm just worrying about it so much. Do i let things lie? Do i try and explain myself or just keep queit? If he really can't remeber should i tell him what i did or not? Do you reckon i gave him the impression i fancy him by trying to kiss him and should i explain?

After this inccident ive decided i won't be drinking again till my legal age as it doesn't sound like me and achool mix well. Thanks for reading.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2011):

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Thanks for all your advice, i will go with what you said and just won't say anything.

He's a good enough friend not to tell anyone and i gusse if there was something he wanted to talk about or ask why i did it then he would of said.

And i won't be doing it again anytime soon. Thanks again.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (25 October 2011):

Honeypie agony auntLet it go. We all make those mistakes.

If he has the good manners as to "forget" about it, you can do likewise.

However, now you know, drinking makes you blabby.. So watch your intake.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2011):

Hey

I can't imagine that there are Manu people who haven't tried drink at your age and it is good that you now know how it affects you! Some people don't care and permanently make fools of themselves.

I agree with the other post that says pretend it never happened, carry on your friendship how it was and be glad you were in the company of a friend and not someone who would gossip about you.

Even when you can legally drink remember your limits!

Hope everything goes well for you x

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A male reader, C. Grant Canada +, writes (25 October 2011):

C. Grant agony auntOK, you've done all the mea culpas, so I won't beat you up for drinking -- it'd be fairly hypocritical anyway as I did the same as you. So -- welcome to the world of 'morning after' regrets. Sucks, doesn't it?

My advice -- leave it as water under the bridge. Pretend it didn't happen. Do not try to discuss it with him. Behave as if he doesn't remember. There's an old saying, 'in vino veritas' (from the wine comes truth), but I've never really been sure whether it was truth or more that the filter that keeps whatever runs through your mind from coming out of your mouth just gets turned off. Anyway, you're in good company -- many, many people have gotten trashed and made fools of themselves. We got over it, you can too. And if you really do get the right lesson -- that you and alcohol don't mix well and you stay away from it for a few years -- that's almost worth the price you're paying now in regrets.

Good luck and be sensible.

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