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Does she have a crush on me, or is she just ridiculously shy of me?

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Question - (8 November 2010) 2 Answers - (Newest, 8 November 2010)
A male United Kingdom age 36-40, *arrybaggs writes:

A girl at my work has been there for almost 3 years. I've been there around 5, so I've known of her since she started. I think she is really beautiful and seems nice. Apart from a few rare exceptions, we've barely spoken to one another due to our departments being so far apart. Around last year she added me on facebook and would write me there doing small talk. Despite this, in person she is either really shy or unwilling to look my way when I'm near. I'd even swear she looks away or down when I', coming So I end up only saying 'hi', if anything at all and do not stop to talk.

However, I recently bumped into her at the mall with a mutual co-worker. We ended up getting to talk and she basically made a comment like 'all I ever get off you is a 'hi'. Then she gently teased me on other things like drinking and other non-important things. She seemed so softly spoken and I can't tell if she's trying to deflect my attention or is really shy of me. I was just being silly and light-hearted and trying to deflate any tension, as at work I can be quite busy, detached and moody. Basically, I'm focusing on the work.

Does she have a crush on me, or is she just ridiculously shy of me? I'm shy, and I've known shy people but she seems extraordinarily shy if that's the reason she is awkward around me.

Any advice is much welcomed!


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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2010):

There is a chance she is interested in you, but is too shy to openly show it and is hoping you will make a move. She added you on Facebook and contacted you online, and the comment she made 'all I ever get off you is a 'hi' was obviously a complaint about the lack of your attention. Now, the big question here is: Do you like her? If not, then just let it go, it doesn't really matter. But if you do, try initiating contact with her at work. If she looks away or down, pretend you didn't notice and talk to her. You will probably get more clues from that conversation. Good luck!

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A female reader, :)31215 United Kingdom +, writes (8 November 2010):

:)31215 agony aunthey :)

It may be a bit of both for her, or she may be confused about you.

She says she only gets a hi off of you, so maybe she wants more but is shy?

Maybe you should start more conversations over facebook so she'll feel more comfortable around you at work :)

Or if you have MSN/Skype or something with webcam, you could chat via webcam so it's more intimate, but youre still in your own comfort spaces :)

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