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writes:My husband and I have been married for 5 and a half months. I am 10 weeks pregnant and starting to gain a little weight. Before we got married, sex was not an issue. He wanted me all the time and gave me a look that always made me feel sexy and beautiful. Since we got married, we have less and less sex. I know he is under some stress and worried about our finances with a baby on the way. Sex isn't even on his mind anymore. I try seducing him and it doesn't work. The other night, he told his best friend (right in front of me) "sex is over rated" and that is so not like him. It took everything I had in me to keep from crying. I feel he's getting bored with me, and that I don't turn him on at all any more. He said today that NOBODY can turn him on any more. What is wrong with me?
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reader, Ginalolabridga  + ♥, writes (27 October 2009):
 Believe it or not this is more common than you think a lot of couples drop the amount of sex they were having when their partner falls pregnant, i think deep down it is just a psychological fear you will hurt the baby, but many couples have sex right up till the baby is born.
For him to make a private comment about sex being overrated in front of his friend was out of line i think i would have said something to him about that, because that was uncalled for it is your own private business and he had no place saying that.
The weight gain is all part of the pregnancy i am afraid there is not much you can do about that and why would you be concerned, it is the best time for you to eat as healthy and as much good food as you can eat!
I think he sounds stressed out with his job but he should not be taking that out on you, unfortunately partners usually are the first vent for them!
Talk this over with him, he should not be making you feel bad when your carrying his child quite the opposite, and whatever his worries are at work he should be able to talk to you about them, a trouble shared and all that!
Try not to fall out with one another it is important that you do not get stressed either so he has to see that, try and help one another, maybe you could ask about the lack of sex and talk about how you could get back to doing what you loved most!
Talk is good for the soul, and good for solving problems so talk!
Gina
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reader, Jedi_Mistress +, writes (26 October 2009):
 Oh man, I know exactly what you mean. Im 14 weeks pregnant and my man and I have started having less sex...and he also used to make me feel sexy and beautiful all the time. Now, it's like he's always stressed thus he's never in the mood. Sweety it's important to remember that there is nothing wrong with you. Most times the scenarios that we come up with in our heads to explain why our parters behave as they do hold no truth. Being pregnant is really hard on emotions (I know, Im not far ahead of you). In fact you might need to sit your husband down for a heart to heart (even if you cry hysterically), and let him know how you feel. The fact that there is a baby inside of you might be making him feel like he'd be having sex in front of your child, he's stressing about all kinds of things you're not concerned with yet...so he could be turned off with everything. Anyway, there's nothing wrong with you, your husband might just have a hard time communicating his concerns and is uncomfortable talking about them, so he's taking it out on you in a passive agressive way. It's not you, it's him. But dont blame him, things will get better.
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reader, Anonymous_NF  + ♥, writes (26 October 2009):
 I don't think that there is something wrong with you, the problem is by him. You should talk freely to him and tell him how you feel, he might just be to stressed over all the new things going on in his life. Give him some time maybe things will change for good.
I wish you all the best
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reader, CaringGuy + ♥, writes (26 October 2009):
There's nothing wrong with you at all. I think he's suffering from depression. Perhaps the pregnancy and all the stress is really getting to him.
There isn't anyting wrong with you, so don't think that. you need to talk to your boyfriend gently and try to find out if everything is okay in his life at the moment. Reind him that you're preganant and you need to him be really be there. Focus on getting your relationship back on track and worry less about the sex. Good luck.
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