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writes:Is this a fair statement?If a married man has a female friend he is attracted to and she is attracted to him, does it mean he cares about her if he refuses to make her the other woman? Any opinions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2011): Could do...or it could mean he just isn't all THAT attracted to her and/or doesn't care enough to risk compromising his secure position with his wife/partner...
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (19 October 2011):
 I think it says a LOT more about his integrity, morals and values then how he feels about his female "friend".
However, if he CARES about his wife and marriage he will realize that being "friends" with a women he has the hots for (whether he acts on it or not) is something that he needs to deal with and pronto.
And if the female "friend" cares for him she will step off.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (19 October 2011):
 No matter how he feels about his friend, he cares much much more about his wife and marriage.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (19 October 2011):
 It's a moot point if he cares.
He's MARRIED and choosing to do the right thing by his wife and NOT have an affair. HOW he feels about her is not the issue. He could love her madly but he's NOT going to do anything about it because he's a good man.
He is committed to his wife and obviously happy enough to not do anything to endanger his marriage.
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reader, Doe Eyed Beauty +, writes (19 October 2011):
Dear'Does it mean he cares if he refuses to make her the other woman?' : Please be advised that the other women is threading on dangerous territory. The person who can't stay commited to a marriage 'covenant' there is know way you can expect a commotment from him in the future. THe other women should be friends with single men and not married men to begin with because this is an inappropriate boundary and these questions come up. THis is a good guy and the other women needs to focus her admiration, encouragement and time into someone that she can hope you have a solid relationship where a man can make a real commitment to her. DOn't be a dwesperate women standing on the side trying to ruin some other women's happiness. Go get your own. D. E.B.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (19 October 2011):
 I don't think it says anything about his feelings towards the woman. Instead it says a lot about his integrity, character and nobility to stay faithful.
Of course, it doesn't mean he doesn't care about others, it's just that this act on itself doesn't reflect on his feelings towards others, it reflects on his character alone.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (19 October 2011):
 I'm guessing that YOU'RE this "female friend"... and you're going crazy trying to figure out it this guy is going to take the plunge with you.....
Considering what dogs we guys often prove to be... I'd say that he will feign caring about you UNTIL he gets you in to bed..... THEN, you will find out that he doesn't much care about you, after all!!!!!!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (19 October 2011):
 Perhaps. But maybe it just means he cares about his wife and does not want to cheat on her.
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