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writes: I am dating a 26 year old, and i am 40 year old woman. We met 2 years ago when he turned 24. We are basically attracted to each other, love at first sight i may say, and really are like soulmate. During our 2 years life had been very rough. We were seperate for 1/2 year due to family pressure. But our love bond just keep us together even stronger. Now we are back together again... He once told me that he felt it will be really unfair to me cause we cannot be forever. I just told him to be optimistic... do you think our relationship will be a short or long one? Can short relationships be fun too? How?
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reader, called Steve  + ♥, writes (6 November 2009):
 for me, it's as Gina says... if he is the type of guy who's glass is half empty, your relationship could be more hard work than what you are prepared to accept.Or maybe he is just shallow to think that once you start to age significantly then he will move on as he looks much younger... tread carefully, but I'd go with the flow for now but always keep that little bit of special emotion in reserve. I dont like the sound of his words for some reason.Steve
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reader, Anonymous_NF  + ♥, writes (6 November 2009):
 There is no age for love, I to am dating someone 9 years older then me and I'm as happy as can be. You can't know what will happen until you try. So I say go for itGood luck
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reader, bitterblue  + ♥, writes (6 November 2009):
 Maybe he doesn't think age gap relationships can work. In your case the age difference isn't quite insignificant. He told you that you cannot be together forever, so you are forewarned. At least knowing this, you won't be nagging him about whether he will leave you for someone younger at some point, if you are both aware that it will be a short lived relationship. I have seen a couple of times the insecurity (of the older partner) be more of a problem than the actual age gap. What concerns me though is your chances to find someone in your own age bracket and a more realistical connection as by the time this relationship has ended its course, your area of choices might be slightly shrinked... or maybe not. It depends on how long this short relationship will be and other factors. It's also not so "fun" to enter a relationship thinking it will end. But I think it's much better to know for sure then be surprised later on, which is why I commend him for his sincerity. The ball is in your field, for you to take a decision. I think it is important to think long term and to quote him, how fair this is for you. Best wishes.
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reader, Ginalolabridga + ♥, writes (6 November 2009):
 I would be questioning his reason he is saying you cannot be together forever?
I would want to work on those reasons and then see if that can be resolved, if it can then fine your relationship has every chance of surviving if you put the effort and work into it.
If it is due to family issues then that to has to be resolved also.
Short relationships can be fun for some, but i think your looking for long term?
So why settle for short term?
Gina
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