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writes:Theres this guy who I thought liked me alot. But now I'm not so sure. We both have a college class together, thats how I know him, and he has been helping me with alot of my work (he offered!!!). He is always making excuses to talk to me and see me, and always sits with me in class and we usualy spend a lot of time after classes just talking about other stuff.I thought really cared about me or something because he was always asking how things were going on in my personal life (my dad was in hospital recently and it was fairly serious). When I told him about this guy in another class giving me a hard time, he offered to tell him off for me. I told him it was ok...but he still did anyway. Arent these signs he likes me???The thing is though, he asked for my phone number, but never called.Yesterday I sent him an email asking what he was up to tonight and if he wasnt busy, he could come along to this event for charity a friend of mine is hosting tonight. i recieved a notification saying he open and read the email. but he never replied!!!he ALWAYS replies straight away to my emails. i saw him today at college and he said hello but was a bit more quiet then usual, however he gave me such a nice smile when saying helloo and goodbye. i coudlnt bring myself to ask him about the email because i felt so rejected. if he was busy and couldnt make it tonight, he would of atleast said so right? do you think he didnt reply because he doeesnt like me like that?or do you think maybe he does like me and didnt reply for some other reason?the only other reason i can think of is that maybe he thought i didnt really want him to come, cause when i sent out the email invitation i sent it to a few other friends too (i was too shy about making it obvious i liked him by senidng one out especially to him). so whats going on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI sent it the night before and yeah i know it wasnt much notice but i only found out then too. i guess ill see how he acts next week in class...hopefully i get some good signs.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (23 May 2008):
It was hardly "putting yourself out there" unless he was to understand you were asking the other 7 out on a date as well. Guys generally don't do subtlety. You need to be clear.
Once you've heard his excuse for not coming / emailing you back then you can tell him you would like to do something one night. Ask him if he wants to go and see Ironman at the cinema. (it's quite good actually)
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMmm well I sent it to about 7 other people, still i guess he could of taken it the wrong way. i know one of us should take the plunge one day...but that was me puting myself out there and i feel like i failed.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (23 May 2008):
Ah, I was underestimating the number of people who you sent it to and how close they were. I get invites from my friends which I don't reply to because it's usually on the other side of the country (I move a lot) or on a day I am working.
Well I still think you should just ask him why he couldn't make it.
One of you is going to have to take the plunge and ask the other out one day. Why can't it be you?
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionactually everyone who i sent an invitation did reply. its the polite thing to do, if you cant make it, to say sorry i cant make it right? i said in the email 'let me know if you can make it or not' as well...
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (23 May 2008):
You are reading a lot into this. You are friends, and you sent a group email out to all your friends asking them to come along, and he didn't make it. How many other people didn't reply and didn't come? It's not a personal rejection. It's just that he didn't.
You could say to him "I was really hoping you'd come last night." and see what he says.
Good Luck!! xx
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