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Do I wait it out or make a move? I don't want to be rejected

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Question - (12 November 2016) 3 Answers - (Newest, 12 November 2016)
A female United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

wait it out or just make a move

I do like him...well ....

he looks to be about 36, im 32 female but I look young.....anyway he stares at me and smiles with all 32 teeth showin, (he is fluffy, im normally not into teddy bear type men, but this guy seems diff, compared to the other men ive crushed on and asked out.....and he has nice teeth and boy is he sexxi), everytime he sees me....as if he is extra happy to see me, i only see him maybe once or twice a week.....then he speaks in a shy low toned voice when im leaving and he'll tell me to have a nice a day , he's been doing this for months now...... I want to approach him, but I do NOT wanna get my feelings hurt again...(yeah ive asked men out in the past and that did not turn out as planned)..what should I do? he does this everytime he sees me....one time he made slight convo by asking me do I like the new bus route, well I let him know I didn't....and I made him laugh and he just stared at me in shock but he was just smiling....

there are cameras around that can hear and see everything, ....plus there are passengers on the bus...I don't want him to get into any trouble nor do I want to get embarrassed...ive noticed he sighs a lot around me. or he will stare at me smiling...and I laugh on the inside...but I never said anything.

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A female reader, Youcannotbeserious United Kingdom + , writes (12 November 2016):

Youcannotbeserious agony auntDon't make a big deal of it. Just say something like, "Heh, I really need a coffee. You're welcome to join me if you have time."

That way, he has an easy get-out if he doesn't want to go or if you catch him on the back foot and he doesn't know what to say. (He may have a partner. He may be nervous and not know what to say.)

If he does say he hasn't time, leave it open for him by saying something like "No problem. Maybe another time?" Then smile to show there are no hard feelings.

Good luck.

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A male reader, N91 United Kingdom +, writes (12 November 2016):

N91 agony auntIf you never ask you'll be wondering what if forever. Wouldn't you rather just ask and find out whether he's interested?

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A female reader, Ivyblue Australia +, writes (12 November 2016):

Ivyblue agony auntnothing ventured,nothing gained. Something simple shouldn't set you up to harshly if he declines. Maybe just a "hey, want to grab a coffee some time"

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