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*weetlauren01
writes:My bf and i were together for 6 months living in different cities, mostly me traveling to see him and spend days at a time with him. Within the 6 months he bought a house and slowly wanted to spend more time with his friends then me, when im the one who spent weeks running around doing errands to get ready for the house and helped him move in ( which not one of his friends helped with any of it). Anyway i went out to the sandbar with people from work got drunk and kissed a co- worker. I am not a drinker never have been never will be but the day got away from me.I tried for a cpl weeks to tell my bf but was scared. Everything was going so good in our relationship We decided that i should move in instead of all the traveling. Within two days of me moving in He ended up finding out from one of his friends about what i had done. Instead of figuring things out between us he told his friends and family and i moved out directly within a cpl days. I owned up to what i did said i was profusely sorry and told him i would never so it again and i loved him and please dont throw what he had away. It has now been two months and twice he has told me he will give me another chance just for me to drive over to his house sleep with me and to wake up the next morning and for him to tell me its too much and he needs to think about it cuz his friends and family dont like me and he doesnt know if he can deal with their criticism. He tells me he really loves me, wants to be with me but doesnt know if he can. He dug himself such a hole when he told everybody and there mother about happen that now he feels like he cant go back because of the crap he will catch. Now he wont even talk to me cuz he neess MORE time. I dont think its fair, if you love someone and wanna be with them you do it and everyone will be happy if your happy but if he cant stand up for what he wants why should i hang around? I know what i idid was wrong but what he is doing to me now is wrong too and its taking such an emotional toll on me on top of beating myself up over what i did. My question is do I wait around or move on?
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reader, Sweetlauren01 +, writes (6 November 2012):
Sweetlauren01 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your replies. I slept with him because he told me he was giving me a second chance and that we were back together. And the next morning he would change his mind. I have not contacted him. I need a man in my life not a little bot who cant stand up for what he says he wants. Thanks again for your help!!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (5 November 2012):
 Move on. the only reason he sees you now is for sex...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2012): Why did you sleep with him after the break up. He is just using you. Dont contact him and let this go. He cannot forgive you but he thinks its okay to sleep with you. He is very immature and will not let you live down this indiscretion. If he was serious and man enough he would forgive you and also not care what others think. I strongly suggest you start the no contact and get over him, or you are going to be disappointed.
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