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*.b.williams
writes:So i have a bit of a sticky situation and have no idea how to deal with it.I've just started to hang out with a few guys from my college recently, who i've know for a very long time now. I had a sort of 'thing' with one of the guys in the group a while back, nothing serious we were just texting each other regularly etc..He sort of made it apparent that his main interest was to have sex with me and not build anything on that, so i told him how i didn't want this and we sort of drifted apart a little, until recently when we've all been hanging out. Also this guy now has a girlfriend, who he is not committed to and has cheated on many times.The other evening i went round to the guys house, along with a few people and we were all getting along, dancing and having fun. Myself and the guy i used to have the 'thing' with were admittedly flirting however, we were only having fun. His brother also happened to be there (i met him the other night and we were talking, getting on quite well). The brother offered to give me a lift home and on the way back he asked me if i was single and if i wanted to go out on a date with him! In a moment of panic and not knowing what to say, i replied yes ok! But now, the guy who i previously had a thing with has text me saying he's not impressed, he can't believe i've chose his brother over him (not that i have really) and is asking me to go round his house. So, i'm in a very weird situation. Do i go on a date with the brother? I do not want to jeopardise the friendship i have with the first brother, and obviously don't want to come between them both. Please help!
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (3 July 2013):
 Go on the date if you are interested in the guy, his brother is in no condition to decide whom you can date and whom you can't.
Usually though, I would try to avoid dating family members of friend, but honestly you never know, maybe the brother is a good guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2013): You said "yes" to the date. What does the first guy really have to do with what you, or his adult brother does?
Why are you making an issue where it doesn't exist? They guy is a jerk who cheats on his girlfriend. Now he's interfering in your private life, and that of his brother's.
Be proud you made a better choice. Be open-minded, go on that date and have a great time.
Be your own woman and stick to your decisions. You've batted
100% so far!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2013): Go on the date, the other guy is a prick who has a girlfriend. THe brother seems nice. It's one date, if it goes well yippee if not nevermind.
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reader, Makar  +, writes (3 July 2013):
 I think the one "you had a thing with" now saw that 'the toy' he wanted just to use was taken by someone else and wants it immediately back.
Try dating with his brother. If he is nice, you win. If not, you can still try the first one.
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