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female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:Hello, i have spoken to this guy for a few years and met him a handful of times and kissed. I speak to him everyday and his like my best friend (as well as relationship material) but we have never tried a relationship due to my travelling and living 109 miles away. He is amazing, he makes me so happy and he ignites a fire in my stomach every time I speak to him and see him. We both really like each other but practically it doesn't work. He is amazing however. I have recently stopped speaking to him because it's going no further and I'm trying to move on, but every time I speak to another boy he is constantly on my mind and I always compare them to him. I can't get him off my mind and I can't move on, but I think it may be because we have never tried.What do I do?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (18 August 2016):
 It sounds like you guys are more pen pals than anything else. You could both make more off an effort if you wanted a relationship to work, you could meet half way once a week. The thing is you are still young so this might be difficult.
You say you are trying to move on, but to do that you need time. You need to block him totally from your life if you have decided no contact and you need to stick to that. You are comparing guys to someone who you speak to daily so off course he will seem the better choice. You need time and focus to get him out of your head.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (18 August 2016):
 my husand and i survived a year apart with 100 miles
but we had the money and the time to get together every weekend
at your age that is hard...109 miles is not a lot... it's around a 2 hour trip which around here is considered a day trip if need be.
if you both travel and meet in the middle you would travel about an hour and that's commuting distance here.
have you discussed meeting in the middle every other weekend and attempting a LDR to see how it goes?
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reader, N91 +, writes (18 August 2016):
 Well if you want to try it, tell him. Life is too short to be wondering what could of happened.
Either ask him out, or cut all contact (remove his social media, block his number) and move on.
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