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anonymous
writes:HiWell...theres this guy i've been crushing on for MONTHS. He said from the beginning that he cant see anything happening. But I continued to like him. Then it turned sour today. This is an extract from our MSN conversation:[HIM] said:I just cant feel any sparkand you complain all the time -.-no matter, how much you would want to make it work, it wont happen, and we both know there is much better out thereand if you can't accept that then you shall just live like this until college endsif thats how you want to liveand if you bitch about me now to whoever and be mean then fine if it makes you happy, cos i know i wonti wont make you happy.[ME] said:fuck this conversation. im going. im not going to bitch about you, know that. but remember one thing: you missed out on a girl who would have loved you very much. a girl who would have done anything for you. if you base relationship potential on a spark/chemistry (which is purely physical), then your loss. if you base it on the differences between us, then bullshit. thats not acceptable as a reason. never is. i never rule anything out unless its been tried and because you are so unwilling to even try, you will never know for sure. you only based it on your stupid set of predictions. but alas...it seems you are either too scared or too stubborn to realise potential. good byeAnywho, my question is: did I completely kill our friendship today?
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (15 September 2009):
 Well, you might not have completely killed it - that is if you play your cards right. Because let's face it, it takes two to tango and he was no saint either in this situation. So don't take all the blame here, sweetness. Sounds like you were straight with him, and good for you for doing so.
I would cool it with this guy. Step back and make good on your word. He lost out and now he's got to feel the loss so that he can think about what he's missing, even if he's just missing your friendship. But before you can be friends, you need to truly get over him so that isn't tainting things... I'm sure he's afraid to lead you on. So, let things chill out for a couple of months, and then you can see if the friendship can still happen.
Good luck, sweetness!
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reader, boo22 +, writes (15 September 2009):
 Hi honey, I know you've had a big blow to your ego but you seem very over the top. Its not his fault if your not his cup of tea.
Stop taking it so personally. You can't make him go out with you if he doesn't feel that way about you.
Just chalk it up to experience and leave the guy alone for a while.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2009): There was no friendship [from your side] in the first place. Save the line for the guy, who you would like to marry. Devotion without a spark does not work for a young guy, who just wants to date.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2009): Only time will tell; who knows what his reaction will be. My guess is since he has already made it clear to you and you still think of him this way chances are that he will go away now.Do a check in with yourself to find out why you still hold on to the idea of being with him even though he is not interested. Discover new ways to boost your self esteem.
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