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writes: I've been sleeping with hookers on a weekly basis since I was 21. However, things have changed recently. However, recently, , I've just lost the urge to do it anymore. To make matters worse, I'm afraid that it might have something do with the fact that I harbor feelings towards one of my closest friends who is in a relationship with someone else. I'll never get over her until I begin sleep with other women again, but for some reason or other, the idea of sleeping with a hooker once again, simply revolts me. Gone are the days when a weekly trip to the brothel was the sort of thing that would cheer me up. And it’s not like I can actually seek an actual relationship with someone else at this point either, since I’m currently suffering from depression. Honestly , I’m at a loss at what to do right now and any advice at would be very welcome. Thanks for reading this.
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reader, MsSadie  +, writes (14 April 2013):
 When you're suffering from depression, you lose the desire to do things that you once found pleasurable. That's literally one of the several symptoms of depression that you can find listed at any credible medical source.The only thing you can do is alleviate the depression. First you need to figure out when and why the depression started. Is your crush on your friend the only thing that has you in this state? Have other things been going on in your life? Is it possible that you're simply the type who is prone to chronic depression?Then you need to take the steps necessary to beat it. I'm not a professional, but from my own experiences and past woes I can tell you that the most important concept to get you out of a rut is something called opposite action. As the name suggests it means doing the opposite of what your emotional mind tells you to do. If you want to sit around your home all day and wallow, do the opposite by going out and occupying your mind with an activity (exercising, meeting up with friends, taking a class).I wouldn't recommend trying to find a lover, casual or serious, just yet only because I'd hate for you to get discouraged should the hunt be harder than you anticipated.Also, is it possible that you're just not into prostitutes anymore? Maybe in maturing you've grown to want something serious and that's why your taken friend has got you down. If that's the case, then you still need to work on your overall mood first. Once that's on the rise, start getting out there (even better if you have friends who you can accompany you on nights out) and meeting people.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (14 April 2013):
 I'm confused as to what advice you want. Are you looking to see how to get into a relationship with the unavailable woman? Are you looking to get back your desire to sleep with hookers on a weekly basis? Are you interested in getting into a relationship with a woman in general where money's not changing hands?
I can say this -- if you're suffering from depression, and if you're interested in a relationship, then sleeping with hookers is the wrong thing to do. Maybe you subconsciously know that already which is why you're naturally laying off of them.
My advice is to deal with your depression head on. Get some medical help for it. You can have a real relationship, but you have to stay away from the brothels. Seriously, would you want to be in a relationship with a woman who was a hooker for one day per week? I guarantee that neither you nor almost anyone else would date her. Most women wouldn't be amenable to be with a guy who frequents hookers.
Don't use hookers to "get over" another woman. You can't. Deal with the depression and find another outlet to make you feel better and cheer you up.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (14 April 2013):
 I’ve been with my share of what you’re referencing. It’s no hassle fun n a guarantee I know. Haven’t those encounters built your confidence? They should. Why sit on one girl? Dude one woman especially one whose taken isn’t worth your energy nor time. Get out more. Mingle. Avoid drinking in your current state. You need to build your confidence man. Get it done. Your attitude will get you nowhere. You need to be more positive. Learn about women. What attracts them? What they hate etc Change your personality. Change your physique. This is all easier said than done, but I’ve done both and with great success. Drop this wholly dramatic facade of an attitude and get things together. Good luck.
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