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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Ok...so I've written other posts regarding this situation. Long story short. I had a 9 month affair with a wealthy man. I'm married. My ex-lover knew that, but I didn't know that my ex-lover was married with children. I got pregnant and had a miscarriage - it was my ex-lovers's, not my husband's. My husband found out about the affair at that point and contacted my ex-lover's wife and told her. We didn't hear from them for nearly a month. I felt I needed closure, since I never heard from my ex-lover after I told him I was pregnant, so I sent him an email, assuming that he knew that his wife knew. Turns out that wasn't the case - she hadn't told him yet! She was pissed at me for saying that, but I still never heard a response from him. Both my husband and I asked her (electronically via social media) if she thought that her husband would react violently or seek revenge and she never responded. Should we be worried? If so, what should we do?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (3 May 2010):
I don't think so. Generally speaking, a person who has been wronged and wants revenge will seek it very quickly. They won't leave it for a long time. He also has too much too much to lose, if he really is wealthy. He won't risk his marriage again or his wealth. So stop looking for closure, stop all contact and get back to focusing on your marriage, which is clearly in trouble. The more you dwell upon this, the more likely it will all end in tears for you with your own husband.
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