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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey all!Id really appreciate some advice, as i dont seem to be very good with things involving my own life lately.Well im 18 years old, and about a month ago i split up with my boyfriend of a year and 7 months, it had got to the point where it was more a friendship that a relationship, and it had been like that for a while, sadly even though we ended on good terms he refuses to have any contact with me, not even a passing hello.Well anyway, ive ment someone new, i met him around the ending of my boyfriend, and what attracted me to him at first was that he is gorgeous, unfortunatly for me, every other person in our college thought that aswell. We didnt really speak at all at first.Then one day we had all gone down our local pub, for a friday night out, somehow he had found out about it, and when we came into college monday morning he sat near us, and announced that he was coming down there with his friend (That's involved/likes my best friend) when he lives around 20 minutes away.So he came down, and revealed that he liked a girl that went to our college, who was also down there. She's involved with someone else though, and he got upset over it. Then on the wednesday, we went up a friends, and him and the girl he likes were there, and he got upset over her again and this time i sat there and comforted him, and he told me how i was an attractive girl which i thought was sweet, but then something happend and this is what i dont understand. The next day in school he started paying attention to me, we kept locking eye contact, and he started speaking to me, then when i lost my mobile, he offered to ring it for me, i didnt think anything of it. But about an hour later he text me, and then we were texting throughout the day, but he hasnt text me since.The only thing is, that he speaks to me/stares at me in person, but doesnt talk to me on facebook/msn/text at all.Then friday night, he asked me what i was doing, and i said i was going to a party, then that night around 10:30 he rang me asking me if him and his two friends could come ( he new the girl whos party it was, so she said yes) so i went over and met him and took my friend, she was drunk and started hugging him etc, and he was laughing and rolling his eyes at me. Then when we got to the party, he came over and started speaking to me, and then his phone rang and it was the girl he likes asking where he was, so he left the room and asked me to wait where i was, I decided not too though, as i wasnt waiting around on my own for about ten minutes whilst he was speaking to another girl. He came in, and i noticed him looking for me, when he spotted me he said "how come you didnt wait for me" and i said "sorry but i wasnt waiting around all night" and he replied "oh i only wanted to speak to you".Throughout the night we shared jokes, laughs, smiles, looks, untill the girl he likes turned up, and then he got all upset.The only thing is this other girl, is flirting and leading him on, and everyone else no's that she's meeting someone else but doesnt have the balls to tell him.I just dont understand if i have any chance here, but there seems like there's chemistry between us, so i dont know whether to try or not. Plus its so comfortable and relaxed when where together, yet over the interent it seems like he doesnt want to speak to me.Shall i give it my best shot or? Thanks in advance xx
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (28 September 2009):
This guy's playing you like a violin. He likes another girl not you. Instead, he's keeping you ion reserve because he wants to use you. Delete his number and find someone who does want to be with you, and you only. There'll be a guy out there for you. This one is not the guy.
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reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (28 September 2009):
 I know you don't want to hear this but this is my advice.
He likes another girl.
He is leading you on, keeping you on the back burner so that he can have you when he can't have her. But the second she comes into the picture he will leave you and go to her. He already proved that at the party.
You don't deserve someone that will keep you on the back burner. Move on and find someone who main attention is on you.
Good Luck!
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