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writes:Lately I have been having fantasies about random sexual encounters, and it is something I really want to try. But I have no idea how to go about this. I have been in relationships for so long and I find all these men that just want to fall in love and as wonderful as that may be, I want to have zero emotion, just sex and never have to see them again. Would prefer in some semi public place. How can I get this? I want to fill this fantasy... Any suggestions? Reply to this Question
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reader, redcherry  +, writes (15 April 2010):
Hi there,
I'm 27, female and a single mother now. I have NEVER been with anyone except my husband and have always had fantasies like you whilst being the good girl. Well... I've decided to fullfill exactly what you are wanting to do... i don't want love, i don't need romancing, I just want sex.
I met a guy on a phone chat line two weeks ago, chatted to him on msn and found out his whole name, area he lives in, what work he's in and numbers.
I've arranged to meet him this week at night, at mc'donalds - classy I know! - and then we'll go from there. If I still fancy it, we'll do it near by in a car or park and use a condom.
I didn't want to pick a room where i would feel more trapped, and I also told my cousin everything I know about him incase anything happens to me.
I'm nervous and have concerns, but this is something I have wanted for years.
If you are going to have a one night stand with someone, make sure you have protection with you and insist on it (i hate condoms to death, but that's better than an STD) research std's a bit too, you can get them through oral sex as well.
Also, maybe take like a perfum with you... so you can spray the guy in the eyes if he gets weird! lol. just my advice... advice from someone that has never done this... but is going to! :)
Good luck and be safe
xx J
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm just always the good girl... Never crossed those lines, never done anything like that.. Being a good girl I found a good guy who wants to wait on sex.. Which is killing me! I have needs and wants and he doesn't want to step it up a bit.. There are too many risks like Ebony said.. Sexual frustration really sucks. grrrr
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reader, ChristineAvril  +, writes (7 April 2010):
 If you are in a relationship, why not let your partner role-play the casual pick-up? Could be fun and at least it will be safe!
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (7 April 2010):
 interesting, initially i was going to say that should be easy to do, but i started thinking, if an attractive women walked up to me and said she would like to have casual sex with no strings attached i probably wouldnt go for it, i would be wondering whats the catch.
The guys that would go for it probably are pretty seedy characters. The thing is men dont like feeling used they want to be in control even when it comes to sex you would think the man wouldnt care as long as he is getting some but the truth is men want control. I honestly dont think that men pay prostitutes just for the sex half of the time there wives and gf are far more attractive, but money is power, being able to purchase something makes one feel like there in control.
If you want to fulfill this fantasy of yours i sugest making them man you choose feel like hes in control of the situation.
You can go to places guys go the bar club car stores etc, im sure if you where to break down out side autozone a nice guy will come to your rescue.
But as a christian i have to advise against this, i suggest you deal with one of the guys who wants to fall in love with you that will bring you greater happines in the long run.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (7 April 2010):
 Most any local bar or nightspot should do. Pick out a guy you fancy and flirt with him. It happens every night all across America and throughout the Western world.
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (7 April 2010):
 Don't go to a male prostitute because you can easily catch something off these people. You could think about hiring a male escort, that's probably the safest way to do it. But sex with a stranger can never be completely safe, as you don't know their sexual history.
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