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writes:Dear Aunts and Uncles,I have a unique problem. I was a virgin until I got married. However, I used to masturbate a lot and am theoretically educated about sex and protection etc.Now the problem is, during foreplay which both of us enjoy a lot, I could keep an erection for a very long time. However, when I try to penetrate her, I would loose my erection immediately.If I don't loose the erection immediately, it is oly because I could not enter her at all (this is since we started trying with condoms).I've only entered her once, and then we had a pregnancy scare. At that one time ... it was in a fit of passion and even then I lost the erection immediately.Can someone please tell me, what is the best way to have sex. How should I penetrate her, so that I could get inside easily. How can I keep my erection when I'm entering her.There is no problem at this point, just a bit of frustration as I think she will start feeling that I have a permanent problem...while I'm trying to believe this is not (how could I otherwise keep an erection while masturbating / during foreplay for so long).Need urgent help please.
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reader, chazx  +, writes (1 April 2009):
 If you are having problems then maybe you need to seek medical advice??Dont be embarressed.Does your girlfriend ever say anything to you about this issue?Have you had many other sexual partners?Hugs Shazx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt's not about the scare..
It's not about condoms anymore... she is on pills now
I still could not keep the erection while I had to penetrate...
I was erect for a minute.. that it took me to find where to penetrate.. and just as I was trying to push in..I lost my erection..
I think the whole effort distracted me...
Any solutions please...
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reader, Jason means Healer +, writes (25 March 2009):
Mate! You might as well forget your impotentcy.It's all about the pregnancy worry.You have to ascertain whether your partner is stable enought emotionally, physically and mentally to make a determination on the correlation between her oestrous cycle and her menstrous cycle, dude!Now, presuming they're not out of whack, they should be 180 degrees out of phase with each other.So that the days after the ceasation of a period are SO safe that the only next best is the days prior to menstration.Now, that is coitus inferior because at that time it is getting safer the closer you are getting to a period, and you don't want to be "doing it" on her period, nah!Whereas coitus maximus is ok after a lady comes off (though I'm guilty of having been too hasty occasionally, OPPS!) and then becomes ever more dangerous as you approach mid cycle.2 days before (normally days 12-14) to three days after are the danger zones, but add a day to each of them and you're stll pushing the envelope.Only a machine which measures the simultaneous levels of estrogen and progesterone can determine more accurately.So, working around the times of the month is cited as being as good as any form of contraception.The machine is as good and the combination is awesome.And just avoid penatrative sex around the hot cycle, come on I'm sure you can think of something else? What do you do when she's on her cycle, cycle?
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reader, Natalie90 +, writes (25 March 2009):
 ive read alot of questions like this is magazines so this is not a personal answer, but many of them suggest that you allow your partner to but the condom on as it can be distracting for the man. if not ann summers or any other adult shop will do a range of gels ect that are promoted for men so check them out please let me know if this helps thanks !!
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