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Can you help me find the words to express how I feel about him?

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Question - (9 November 2017) 6 Answers - (Newest, 15 November 2017)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

hi there im 35, ive been speaking to a man for a while now, i find it very hard expressing myself, i want to tell him the strong feelings i have for him, but i get embarrassed, would someone word it for me please xx

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A female reader, femmenoir Australia +, writes (15 November 2017):

femmenoir agony auntYou should meet this man first and get to know him much better before declaring your feelings for him.

Sharing this very personal part of you with another, is only worthy, if/when you can see/feel that those feelings are somehow being reciprocated, OTHERWISE, you're simply wasting your precious time.

When the time is right, which i don't think is now, then you share with him, what's coming from your heart.

The words must be yours and yours alone.

Don't worry, when the timing is right and you're feeling more comfortable in his presence, everything will flow naturally, as it should.

If you're still finding you're having trouble expressing your feelings, then you need to try and establish what it is that you're afraid of, or why it is that you can't.

This may even entail speaking to a professional, if you regard it as a serious enough issue.

Finally, why don't you try writing how you feel for him on paper, then practice those words out loud and when you feel totally comfortable saying it out loud to yourself, you may find it flows much more naturally when in his presence.

Don't share your true feelings UNTIL you've met and can say it in person, because if you say it over the phone, via email, via social media or even via a letter, it's never going to be the same, as wonderful and as romantic as when the two of you are facing one another.

It's so much nicer being close to each other and looking at each other when declaring such feelings and the first time you do this, CANNOT be repeated.

The first time will always be the first time, so make it truly special and memorable.

In the long run, you'll both remember and appreciate that special moment together.

Also, regardless of the outcome, at least you gave it your best shot and tried.

Good luck and let us know how you go.

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (10 November 2017):

aunt honesty agony auntHi OP, the words need to come from you and not strangers on the internet, I hope I don't sound to harsh to you, but that is the truth. All you can do is be yourself with this man. Also take your time and get to know him before declaring feelings for him. Are you dating this guy? Meeting up with him or else talking to him online?

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A male reader, TylerSage United States + , writes (9 November 2017):

TylerSage agony auntI personality don't think anyone here can word-out your feelings dear. You're not on Wheel-of-Fortune, you're experiencing strong emotional feelings for another person. Only you can tell what you're feeling. What you need to examine now is why you feel discomfort? Does it have to do with feeling you might be rejected?

Rejection is a natural part for life and love. But in order to make sure you have a chance you need to express your feelings to this man. Maybe you could write him a letter and let him read it alone somewhere. This could help achieve your goal without the awkwardness.

All the best.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2017):

If you haven’t met maybe something simple like .

I really feel we have a connection, and I it’s special when we text call met, (delete as appropriate) . And I don’t want to rush anything but I can feel we have something amazing.

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A female reader, Youcannotbeserious United Kingdom + , writes (9 November 2017):

Youcannotbeserious agony auntIf you haven't actually met him yet, then I would save that conversation for now. You need to meet up and spend time together before letting your feelings run wild.

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A male reader, Denizen United Kingdom +, writes (9 November 2017):

Denizen agony auntActions speak louder than words so they say.

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