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Can the size of your vagina change?

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Question - (31 August 2007) 11 Answers - (Newest, 23 May 2010)
A female , anonymous writes:

Can the size of your vagina change? Or, does it just stay "tight" if it is that way, or loose if it is that way? My guy sometimes will say that mine isn't tight, and it hurts my feelings.

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A female reader, tatatmn Georgia +, writes (23 May 2010):

if you don't know, don't write. all vagina is individual and every of them doesnot stay streched after childbirth. i have givne birth naturaly a year ago and mine is absolutely the same. i can hardly put one finger into it and my husband still enjoys it as before. so don't say what you don't know. i have not even done kegels

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A male reader, BigWordFree United States +, writes (10 April 2010):

OK I just found the medical answer to your question, which is probably where you should have turned for this question, to your doctor or gynecologist.

There is such a thing as vaginal tenting. Which is the process of a female errection. During arrousal the female vagina widens and depens similar to how a penis widens and lengthens. I found it on wicki under "vagina" You can look there and browse the arrousal portions for vagina. That may explain why he was concerned, especially since reading this forum post you will find that the common misconception is that the vagina doesn't change size, which is medically incorrect. Here's the page address for that area:

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A female reader, tpf5023 United States +, writes (30 March 2010):

Many times when a woman feels that her vagina is loose or her partner tells her if doesn't feel as tight, it could be true. This could be due to pregnancy, intercourse, or many other things. I had two kids and my vagina indeed did not seem as tight as it once was.

There are some things you can do about this. Exercising the vaginal muscles is a very easy thing to do. You man have heard of the kegel exercise which is the most common exercise for strengthening and tightening up those lady parts, but there are many other things to learn.

I use this e-book as my guide, and I have a regular routine of kegels and other exercises that I'll do while driving to work, or while I'm in bed at night. Here's the link to the book:

You can download it an start instantly.

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A female reader, haley92 United States +, writes (16 August 2009):

well, in my opinion i think yer boyfriend is an arsehole! he is just saying that because he feels inadequate as a man, if thats what he calls himself.

from the moment you lose yer virginity the size of your vagina barely changes unless you have a child, then it widens a bit. c-sections are optional now.

i suggest u put him in his place. call him the president of the itty bitty dick committee!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2008):

Well his penis could be too small wich would make it seem like your vagina is lose.Plus i hear that sex on a complete virgin will losen a tiny bit.But that doesnt apply to you im just stating a fact

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2008):

instead of just striking back, you may consider it's a fact regardless of feelings, and that women have some control over their size, men don't. Just ask what you can do about it and how much it matters to him. If you don't find common ground, leave.

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A female reader, TasteofIndia United States +, writes (1 September 2007):

TasteofIndia agony auntEveryone else gave you great answers... I'm just chiming in with my two cents: your guy is a major jerk if he says that to you.

Your vagina can loosen up a little bit after child birth, but otherwise it can't loosen very much. I think your man is a jerkface and next time he asks you if you've gotten any looser, you reply, "no I haven't... I think your penis is just getting smaller."

Your man is a jerk!!

(okay, I just read "cuninglingwist"s answer. What he said.)

Good luck, sweetness!


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A male reader, legacy United States +, writes (31 August 2007):

I'm a guy and what your boyfriend is telling you is shit. If I was you I would tell him, "Maybe I'm tight and you are kind of on the small size."

Just my thoughts on an insensitive boyfriend.

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A male reader, cuninglingwist United States +, writes (31 August 2007):

"My guy sometimes will say that mine isn't tight, and it hurts my feelings"

Maybe you should ask him if his dick has shrunk! he needs a bigger dick!

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A female reader, XXpussycatXX United Kingdom +, writes (31 August 2007):

hey hun....

blimmin blokes they havent got a clue have they....well a bloke likes making the girl feel like shit but not all are the same and as the fact that your vagina is not as tight as he would like then that is his problem you cant help the way that you are can you.... also as it was said if you give birth and it should do pelvic flor exercises and you will notice that it will gradually get tighter...


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A female reader, Basschick Australia +, writes (31 August 2007):

Basschick agony auntIf you've had kids and delivered them naturally through the vaginal canal, then yes it can change (stretch) considerably after childbirth and usually never goes back to being as tight as it was before you had kids. Sometimes when you get very wet during foreplay, it may seem like you're not as tight because it's too slippery and it's hard for a man to have any feeling when it's too wet. This may also be the case around your period but I don't think the size of your vagina actually changes that much from one day to the next. I hope that helps you out.

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