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Should a guy satisfy the girl first and then themselves??

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Question - (31 August 2007) 5 Answers - (Newest, 1 September 2007)
A female , anonymous writes:

Is it just me, or should guys care about satisfying the girl first, and then themselves during sexual relations? It just seems like the guy I am with only cares about pleasing himself.

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A female reader, 911help United States +, writes (1 September 2007):

911help agony auntYou should definitely be taken care of, whether it is before or after him. You need to tell him cause I agree that maybe he doesn't know how. You have to have open communication in the bedroom for a good sexual relationship. If he doesn't know how there are many internet sites that will tell you how to give oral sex. My husband always thinks about baseball until I get off, but sometimes it just slips. Taking his mind off what he is doing to satisfy me first. Maybe he could try that??? Talk to him, if he cares about you he won't get mad or affended. Good Luck!

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A female reader, TasteofIndia United States +, writes (1 September 2007):

TasteofIndia agony auntHey sweetness,

Well, if the guy ends up satisfying himself first (which, let's face it - can happen, even if by accident), he should make DAMN sure he satisfies his woman afterwards.

As Salad Barbarian (great name!!) said, if you're feeling a little neglected in bed, let him know! Just say something like, "so... is it my turn yet?". Or, if we're not feeling subtle say, "HEY. How about we concentrate on a little less YOU and a little more ME?!"

You deserve lovin' too, sweetness. Get forward, and tell your man what you want!!

Enjoy and good luck, sweetness!


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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2007):

Each person should put the pleasure of his or her partner before his or hers' own enjoyment. If you are feeling neglected then tell him. Otherwise things will never change between you two.

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A female reader, XXpussycatXX United Kingdom +, writes (31 August 2007):

hya hun

the thing is when it comes to blokes as the lady said before men are selfish but you can stop that by telling him that he needs to put you first sometimes and that you got needs... dont be to harsh though coz some blokes cant help it....but tell himpleasure me more then when you tipping the edge tell him your ready

good luck

and enjoy


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A female reader, Basschick Australia +, writes (31 August 2007):

Basschick agony auntThat's because there are men who are selfish in bed, and men who are giving in bed. Your is not the latter. Maybe he just doesn't know how...?

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