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writes:I have been talking to a married guy for months on the internet, it was always general chit chat nothing flirty or sexy until Friday. I don't know how it happened but we got chatting and then flirting and then pictures were swapped, sexy pictures. It is actually a little weird because i have never, ever taken sexy shots of myself for someone not even for boyfriends, so why i did it for him i don't know. We have been chatting all weekend but i probably won't see him for a while now because he goes back to work tomorrow.I'm 17 and he is 29, he is a loyal husband and he will never leave his wife and has never done what we have before either, he would never physically cheat. It is all for fun i guess, and we turn each other on so much, but is it wrong? It seems to of happened so naturally that i'm unsure of whether it is wrong or right. Can something that just sort of happens be wrong, where neither of you really regret it because you are so into each other and fancy each other so much?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2008): Vow, I suggest you must be very carefull; no matter who the guy is; to send sexy photos of yourself to anybody can be very dangerous; you don't know what he is going to do with these photo's; next you might find it on some internet site, or in a magazine or who knows; sending pictures like that is very, very dangerous; try not to do that!
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reader, xcharlottex +, writes (30 June 2008):
Im 17...& I do get alot of older guys after me, BUT when it gets past the 25 year point I do feel quite sick...To be fair you cant really justify this in any way but it could be alot worse. It is dangerous, I mean you have no idea how many girls he's done this with before, no matter what he says you should always be aware and never trust someone over the internet generally. However, HE's the one in the realtionship, if you're sure that you're safe and theres no way he or his wife can find out where you live or anything, and you're comfortable with it,I'd say go ahead. (Im not exactly known for being a saint).
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIn England the legal age to have sex is 16.
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reader, softballplaya  +, writes (30 June 2008):
 Well its kind of wrong because someone else will get hurt (his wife) if she finds out. By no means am I discriminating or judging you. I would stop personally because he is too old and could possibly go to jail because your under 18. Thats how it is in the US anyways but thats beside the point. This guy is married. I know your probably think that internet chat is just chatting and pictures are just pictures but thats from YOUR perspective ( probably his as well) put yourself in the place of his wife...how would you feel? I know you dont want to listen to me but I think you could do better thn a married 29 year old man. Obviously this guy wont be loyal to you either because hes straying from his wife. Your no different. Your question title is "can something that just sort of happens be so wrong" Just because you do something on an impulse does not make it right or okay. Nor does it make it right if you plan it depending on what it is. Seriously, think about what your doing and put yourself in his wifes position. Hes clearly not being faithful
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