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Can someone explain bisexuality to me? GF and her best friend are but I don't understand it

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Question - (18 March 2017) 3 Answers - (Newest, 29 March 2017)
A male Denmark age 22-25, anonymous writes:

My girlfriend's sexuality is what she has stated to be bisexual, but she has no "love-connection" with females, just attraction wise.

Now, her best friend is also bisexual in the same way, and they share sexual experiences constantly and what they wanna do one day and stuff.

I don't want to sound like an ignorant or like I'm completely idiotic due to my lack of knowledge about bisexuality, but yeah...

I'm not sure if this needs to be mentioned, but they've like done odd stuff together before like, giving each other lapdances (clothed of course), sleeping together like cuddling.

Anyone able to explain me how it is really? Thanks.

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland + , writes (29 March 2017):

aunt honesty agony auntIt sounds like she is using her sexuality to do whatever she likes with her best friend. The thing is would she be okay if a girl was giving you a lap dance or you where lying in bed cuddling another girl? Because it is the same thing. If you are not comfortable with it then talk to her and tell her.

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A female reader, CindyCares Italy + , writes (18 March 2017):

CindyCares agony aunt They STILL share sexual experiences constantly ?! I mean, even now that your gf is supposed to be in a relationship with you ?...

That's not good, - unless you have both agreed to have an open relationship and both can have sexuaò experiences with other people while you date each other. (But you did not mention that. )

Otherwise, she can put all the labels she wants on it, but it's simply plaon ol' cheating. She cheats with a gorl rather than with a giy, but she is a cheater. And, what are you ? A happy cuckhold ?...

If you mean that she WAS bisexual, meaning that she was

doing stuff with her friend BEFORe dating you, I don't think it can really be explained much better than what she told you already : she is phusically, sexually attracted to both genders, so she can be turned on by and have orgasms with females as well, but for having a relationship ; something involving feelings, and emotional attachment, she wants / prefers men. It is not a very unusual situation.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (18 March 2017):

Honeypie agony auntHonestly? It sounds like they BOTH use the term bisexuality as an excuse for doing EXACTLY what they want.

Bisexuals (in a nutshell) are romantically and SEXUALLY attracted to both men and women, or interested in sexual behavior toward both males and females, or romantic or sexual attraction to people of any sex or gender identity; this latter aspect is sometimes alternatively termed pansexuality.

What she is doing with her friend is not very appropriate when she is in a relationship with you.

And JUST because your GF "says" she has no "love connection" with women doesn't mean she gets a free pass with her female friend.

Being bisexual doesn't mean a person CAN'T be faithful or stick to ONE person for their romantic, emotional and sexual needs. And it doesn't mean they just CAN'T control their urges. That is a choice. To control them or not. Being bisexual is NOT a choice, just like being asexual, homosexual or straight.

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