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writes:Is it possible for someone to be obsessed with all things sexual without being a nymphomaniac? I was very curious about sex from an early age.... which I am ashamed to elaborate on. Let's just say I would watch films on the television (soft core) hard core didn't come til I was 16. Read stories. Write and exchange erotic stories. Have cybersex with strangers. All this is in my teenage years under the age of 16.I didn't kiss anyone til I was 16 or lose my virginity til 17 because I was wanted to be in a relationship and because I was shy. I don't have one night stands or friends with benefits. I do though often talk about sex related things alot on the internet. Whenever I date someone I am very interested in their sexual history and their porn tastes. Anything sexual not to my liking I get really anxious. I think about sex alot. My family have even picked up on it. Whenever I do have a relationship I want sex alot. My boyfriends have accused me of being too sexual. I am very faithful though (even in mind)I can't be a nymphomaniac because I have only slept with 4 people. I don't do it with strangers. Your thoughts?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionA female reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2013):
lol I'm a perv aswell. My family have noticed because I ask alot about men and why they do things and make sexual jokes.
I think the key is to find someone similar they won't notice I'm sex mad lol.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (17 July 2013):
 I think you are just a very open young lady who is in touch with her sexuality.
I see nothing abnormal about what you have said other than you are trying to label something that does not require a label.
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reader, Intrigued3000  +, writes (17 July 2013):
 I am very much like you describe, but I know what caused it. I was sexually abused when I was a child. I'm not saying the same happened to you, but because I was exposed to sexual stuff at a very young age, it affected my sexual boundaries while growing up. I would not say that I'm a nympho, but I found that the only way I could relate to men was in a sexual way. It took me a long time for me to realize that sex is not the only thing I'm good for and should not be my main selling point.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2013): Although I am a male but I was like you when I was young. I was all the time preoccupied with the thought of girls and their anatomy.Adult magazines,strip clubs, sex books,chasing girls all the time.That is how my days were spent. I am much older now and when I look back I really regret all the times I wasted and opportunities I lost. I wish if I had utilized my time better and studied harder to better myself and learn some hobby like music or sports. My advice is that you are a normal hot blooded female but fill your time with better things.Concentrate to excel in a carrier and be a successful woman in life. occupy your free time with learning music, sports, cloth design or any hobby you find interesting.
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (15 July 2013):
 You're misunderstanding the term. It's a MEDICAL condition. Don't minimize it's potentially life-altering and often traumatic characteristics just for effect.
Only a doctor can tell you if you are indeed a sex addict. Don't call yourself a nymphomaniac, especially when you are misusing the word and have not been properly diagnosed.
A person is not afflicted with OCD just because they clean their house every day. A person is not anorexic just because they work out at the gym weekly. Medical definitions should be used PROPERLY and not for shock value.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2013): I am the EXACT same way. Some times even now my fiance will say all you wanto is sex. Lol. I dont watch porn anymore because I dont want him to ( his sex drive is sooo much lower than mine ) and I dont want to be a hypocrite. I masturbate he doesnt- because I want sex lol. Im a bit of a perv. My friends (female) talk about sex a lot. I think its normal, I know my drive is really high.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (15 July 2013):
 That's a bit like asking if you can be addicted to cocaine without actually using it, because you think about using it a lot. Nothing you have described sounds out of the norm. You sound like your interest in sex came on at a normal age and it sounds like you just have a high sex drive. In order to be classed as an actual nymphomanic:
"You must have recurrent and intense sexual desires, sexual urges or sexual behaviours over the period of 6 months or more with 3 of the 5 following criteria; time consumed with sexual fantasies conflicts with other important goals, repetitively engaging in sexual fantasies in response to dysphoric mood states, repetitively engaging in sexual fantasies in response to stress, repetitive but unsuccessful attempts to control such behavior, and repetitively engaging in sexual behaviours with disregard for physical or emotional harm to self or others. There must also be clinically significant personal distress or negative effect on social or occupational aspects of life and the sexual behavior must not be because of an exogenous susbstance. Some behaviors that are specific to this disorder are masturbation, pornography, sex, cybersex, telephone sex, and going to strip clubs."
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