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*anniepeg
writes:Can exciting sex and a serious relationship coexist?There is a story:A country girl is about to marry a rich guy in the city, who she is not really attracted to. She wants to have sex with the rough country boy. The rich guy provides for her financially. The country boy asked him why she married him if she doesn't like him. She replied that now she has the money she can afford the freedom and time to see him in secret.This is happening everywhere, and people are having affairs behind their spouses' back.So why is that when people play a role has a breadwinner, a mother, they stop having fun in bed?Why is great sex always outside of our comfort zone?Why are we only attracted to people who are dangerous and out of our reach?As if we have to choose either great sex or a stable family life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2010): You don't have to choose. The problem is people get married to people who will not fulfill their sexual fantasies. Now if you want to have an affair then no there is no mix possible and you are a selfish bastard.
Sex is important no matter what anyone says and if you are not compatible sexually then you are going to be frustrated in the marriage.
I am a woman and I am always up front about what I like, even though it is slightly embarrassing to admit. I have been in a relationship for a long time now and I have never had more exciting sex in my life. So yeah you can have it all, but you have to be honest and you can't be selfish.
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (20 January 2010):
janniepeg is verified as being by the original poster of the question I get it now.
This is what we do. We put people into the mother box, father box, friend box, breadwinner box, bad boy box, slut box. When we try to mix elements together, it doesn't work.
Gina, is it selfish to want it all? Do you settle for a serious relationship with no good sex?
No guys answering this question?
I thought guys are problem solvers!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2010): Somehow it seems that you will always have great sex when you are cheating on your spouse........ it is part of the appeal of 'forbidden fruit'!Just because there are other people out there having affairs doesnt mean that you have to lower your moral standard to be as low as theirs!!!And look at it this way.... when the rich guy finds out his wife is cheating on him... then she will be out of a marriage and then tell me.... do you really think sex with the rough country boy will be so good? No, it will have lost its appeal as it will no longer be the fobidden fruit!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2010): Maybe great sex needs that element of excitement which is hard to maintain in a serious relationship. Also, it is a lot less likely to find someone you can have amazing sex with who also has the various other qualities you want for a serious relationship. Less likely, but not impossible.
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