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writes:So last night me and my boyfriend (together a few months) had a date, came back to mine ended up in bed and had some really great sex. Super!This morning when we woke up I was still feeling horny and started nuzzling in, stroking him and being affectionate. He certainly had an erection but when I went to go down on him - and I was so gentle and soft - he just brushed me away saying it hurts. I didn't notice him flinch or anything, and to be honest I can't see how he would be hurt after last night. We just had sex once after all. And how can a gentle BJ hurt, really?! Anyway, I kept nuzzling in (was really in the mood) but he started chatting inanely about random topics, anything to distract from the sexual nature of our embrace. Needless to say I did not get any morning loving!What the heck is with this? He had an erection, so his body was willing and I really don't believe he was tender from the night before. It seemed like some excuse. Have any other women experienced situations like this when guys are up for it at night but disinterested in the mornings - even when they have an erection?! I find it strange.. Or guys, have you ever been so tender from sex that you wouldn't even enjoy a bit of oral?Thanks to anyone who has the time to share their views :)
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reader, freeme  +, writes (8 June 2011):
 Mr toyboy hit it correctly with the first response. Sometimes it just hurts, and trust me that last thing you want him to do is associate pain with a blow job.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2011): I am a male. I had experienced something similar. I have AM erections. However, if I had shagged hard the previous night, it would pain [internally] and there will be nothing to prove it pains. But it will hurt. He might not be lying to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2011): I'm going to have to side with your partner because it happened to me. We'd had fairly rough sex the night before and I'd split part of my foreskin. The following day it hurt to even have an erection! It was so frustrating to lie there next to a sexy woman and even the thought of sex hurt!
Talk to him, it's the only way to know what's happening with him.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (7 June 2011):
 almost all men have morning glory (an a.m. erection) it does not mean they want sex.
my boyfriend has informed me that there are time he's no interested in sex but his penis is... he has an erection and no interest in sex.
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (7 June 2011):
 Honeypie had a point. "Morning Wood" is not a surefire sign he is ready and willing to go.
Sometimes the answer is NO darling. Deal with it. He is not your Sex Vending Machine.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (7 June 2011):
 How about you just plain ask him? Maybe, he really had to go pee.. I can't imagine having sex if I REALLY need to pee and I know guys don't have the same ability as women in holding it in.
Talk to your man.
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reader, jkirk +, writes (7 June 2011):
Uhm YES
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (7 June 2011):
Well, I know that sometimes my boyfriend gets chafed after we have sex. And then it hurts him, depending on how serious it was.
And there have been many times that even though he has an erection in the morning from morning wood, he did not want to have sex. Usually he just wants to get up and go pee first.
Next time he's hurt from sex, you can just ask him what happened. If it was anything that could be prevented, if it's happened before, etc. And you can always let him know that it's okay if he isn't in the mood, and to just tell you if that's the case. The only one who can give you more information is him, afterall
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reader, mr toyboy  +, writes (7 June 2011):
Yes it does hurt sometimes. You are just like my ex, she ll say as long as you get an erection, it means you want it, but thats not true. Just talking about sex or my gf touching me gets me up, but that doesnt mean i want sex at that point.
Truth is, i dont know what it is, but sometimes, a guys thing gets bruised during sex and becomes sore, normally i want to wait a day or two again before am ready.
So believe him.
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