Broke up with my girlfriend of 5 years, I don't like her being overweight and hate her belly, told her she was a "thick cow", am I being cruel as she said I was?

Hi I want to ask an opinion. I dumped my girlfriend last week. We were together about 5 years but I always found her not good enough cos she is overweight, in debt and lives in a council house. She says she has tried hard paying off the debts and losing weight slowly. She is still a size 16 and I hate her belly. I like my woman in a slim size 12. I told her she is a thick cow for getting with her loser ex years ago and getting into this mess. Her argument is that I should like her for her personal qualities and she has always had quite good jobs, done a degree and a masters and has put her daughters through A levels and university. She is 41 and I am 50. I work as a police constable and my ex wife said I was lazy and not ambitious enough and should have done Sergeant exams. But I think I have done ok and it is my ex wife that caused my problems. I am frustrated because I think when am I going to meet a nice woman who lives in her own house, is slim and good with money. Does anyone else have these problems meeting decent women. Everyone else says my girlfriend is beautiful, clever funny caring and a nice person and looks young for her age but I always tell her they're just being polite.

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