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anonymous
writes:ok im 14 years old and madly in love with my ex bf whos 15. but again hes my EX BOYFRIEND.....and its got me really depressedwhy:-hes got alot to handel all the time because hes got a hard life and hes not as strong as he comes across (but i totaly get that.....and he knows im always here if he needs anything)-hes not going to my school next year so i wont see him at all-were not really friends anymore because its always akward being around eachother when were not falling all over eachother (we have never really been just friends)-he totaly broke my heart-(etc. etc.)so how can i get over all of this and him so i can move on with my life and be happy again??
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionoh and i almost forgot....
i have known him sence i was in first grade and he was kinda like a "boyfriend" from first to 3rd then again this year...
so iv always cared for him and not having him anymore is the worst pain i have ever felt....
if that makes any diffrence.....
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reader, iSmil3y +, writes (22 May 2009):
You're only 14 so you're still young and you'll find someone else. It might hurt since you cared about him and loved him but The best thing to do, to get over him, is not have any contact with him what so ever, especially if it's awkward when you do talk. And remember, you are still young and you have time, trust me, you'll find someone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2009): there's nothing wrong, you're only a child, you'll meet tons of other guys to choose from in your lifetime, and somebody is gonna make you forget about him. almost nobody ends up with their firsts boyfriends.
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reader, love-struckxo  +, writes (22 May 2009):
 I've been there - done that. Felt the pain and dealt with it.Not talking to him is definatley the BEST way to move on. I know you are sad because you won't see him, but it's really for the best. I mean, how will you move on? if you seem him everyday? exactly, you won't be able too.Sometimes you just got to let it go, it is what it is, it was what it was.. but it isn't that anymore.Sometimes it isn't about forgetting it. It's about accepting the fact that you guys broke up, and it probably will never be the same.Everyday it will get EASIER and EASIER, to accept. There is always something better in store for you.God gives you choices - but he is not responsible for your desicion and the consequence after. Just remember that - 'sometimes good things fall apart - so better things can come together'Cut off all contact with him until you think you have moved on enough to be mature with your feelings.Good Luckxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2009): You can't actually bypass the grieving stage, you cared for this guy and now that he's no longer a part of your life, it hurts, its supposed to hurt and you've got to give yourself permission to be sad for a little while. I can't tell you how long this will take you b/c we are all different. Once some time has past and you've gotten past the mourning stage or feel that its time to snap out of it you have to want to move on (not just say it but want it) it can help to do something symbolic maybe write a letter saying goodbye to him (never send it burn it once written). Then get on with life, spend time with your friends even if you don't feel like being social it'll be good for you to hang out with people you trust and have some fun, if you don't have friends start talking to people, pick some things to focus on schoolwork or a hobby keep yourself busy (not so busy you don't give yourself downtime of course but don't just sit at home wallowing), I find it helps if you can do something that stimulates your mind, also finding a creative outlet, spend some time outside getting fresh air, maybe get some exercise, keep up your appearance not for anyone's sake but your own it'll make you feel better if you make an effort in how you look, when you find yourself thinking of him and getting caught up in what ifs gently remind yourself to let go and think of/do something else to get mind off of him.
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reader, Ich_liebe_dich  +, writes (22 May 2009):
 Hey sweety, Trust me its just your emotion, dont let your emotion win you, to fall in love by this stage is just normal, but dont let your self down by this, you will be happy again thats for sure" put this thing in your experience, you will be fine... life must go on remember, you never been in this guy when you are 7 years old, if you survive from 7 till 14 you will still survive from 14 till you reach your 20's.. he's emotional matters is not your responsible.. Goodluck
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