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Boyfriend finished oral sex rather than stopping so we could have sex!

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Question - (3 October 2011) 6 Answers - (Newest, 5 October 2011)
A female United Arab Emirates age 41-50, anonymous writes:

last night i gave my boyfriend a blowjob thinking that it was just a starting way for us to have an intimate moment that very same time. but then i was surprised that instead of him getting into the mood, he just blew it all by himself and nothing happens...

i was getting on top but he let me stayed down on his.

i was really disappointed. what is the reason for this??

anyway we have been together for two years now and do have a very poor habit ( once a week ) even though we are live in partner.

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A male reader, niiik Nepal +, writes (5 October 2011):

yeah like the guy above said u gotta communicate........cuz there are things n we guys cannot understand whats on a girls mind so go talk to him have a good peaceful conversation n let him know how u feel n what u want so that he could be up to your expectations

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A female reader, Ciar Canada + , writes (3 October 2011):

Ciar agony auntIf this happens only once in a blue moon I wouldn't make much of it. If it's a fairly frequent occurance then he's a very poor lover.

Next time inssist on getting what you want FIRST. If he wants a blowjob badly enough, he'll have to make it worth your while.

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A female reader, RedAthena United States +, writes (3 October 2011):

RedAthena agony auntThen your BF is a selfish lover. If he lost control or just wanted to finish that way-he should have STILL made sure you were satisfied too!

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (3 October 2011):

So_Very_Confused agony auntonce a week for live in long term partners is actually not bad what with life and work and jobs and stuff...

did you tell your partner you were disappointed? IF not how is he to know? Could you not tell he was getting close to finishing? Why didn't you stop and say... let's switch to intercourse???

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A female reader, YouWish United States +, writes (3 October 2011):

YouWish agony auntWell then. Why didn't he go down on you after he finished?

What this means is that he lacked the self-control to stop. Sounds like what you were doing to him was so good he didn't want it to stop, and then...well...you know the rest.

Since you know now that he has trouble keeping it in, don't go down on him until you've gotten yours! Yes, he could have found a way to please you after his release, so for him to just quit and roll over is selfish of him. But now, you know that he doesn't get his until you get yours first.

If he asks you to go down on him again, just tell him that you will as soon as you've finished.

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A male reader, serenity80 United Kingdom +, writes (3 October 2011):

You should talk to your boyfriend about this. Was it a once off, or does he always finish without thinking about what you want? The key to a happy relationship is good communication, so talk to your boyfriend about what happened.

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