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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for 8 years and living together for the last 7 years. I have my own job and helped pay what I could but we lived in his house that he owns. He took over his fathers business about a year after I moved in and started making very good money. He was able to pay most of the bills. I know this is bad but i became somewhat dependent on him because our relationship was serious and we were going to get married in the future. Well we broke up about 2 weeks ago and I've been feeling very lost and scared. I'm not able to live on my own with the low income I make, but I don't qualify for assistance. My parents are both deceased and I don't have siblings. I have 2 close friends in the area but I wouldn't be able to stay with them. I have about a month to move out. I don't know where to go at this point. What do y'all think I should do?
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reader, Zoroll  +, writes (10 September 2015):
 Firstly I am so sorry to hear that. Time heals everything and it will get better as you move on from this relationship but obviously it's going to be difficult for you as you have a few more hurdles.
Breaking out of depending on someone can be very difficult, but if you can think of it as a fresh start, where you can become independent as maybe you will like it better this way!
Is there anyway to maybe work a few more hours at the job you are currently in? Could really help you save up and find a cheaper place that you could live in the short time. It could be a great experience for you. Keep optimistic and I hope it works out well for you!
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reader, fishdish +, writes (10 September 2015):
 That's scary, I'm sorry. I can relate, I lost my job recently and this is the first time that I've had to support myself on my own, with no money coming in, so I feel your struggle. PM me if you feel more comfortable, but how much do you make? Why wouldn't you qualify for assistance? Have you looked into everything--public health insurance, welfare, foodstamps, low income (section 8) housing? Are you in a big city? Do you have a car? What is access to public transportation like in your area? If you are living in a city, consider moving to the outskirts where it may be cheaper. Do you budget? List everything and consider where you can cut expenses? Do you really need a smartphone, for example?
EDIT:: Also look into foodbanks and a second (or new) job.
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