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writes:I've been dating this guy for almost 2 months the first month we was dating was just simply horrible! We fought all the time about everything! We just simply hated each other. For the past 3 weeks everything has been going great! No fighting as much. The thing is he is starting to be super jealous! For example when someone texts me or I text someone he always wants to know who I'm texting and will read my texts. And sometimes when I leave my phone laying he will read my texts. When some one messages me on Facebook he will look over my shoulder and read my messages or get my phone and look at them when I leave my phone laying especially if its a guy friend. I do have a guy friend that I talk to daily nothing more then just friends. I told him he had nothing to worry about. Here lately my boyfriend has been teasing me about my friend derick. Like he will say stuff like get Derick to cuddle with you stuff like that. Sometimes when I tease my boyfriend playing around saying that me and him are friends he gets mad. (Joking around saying me and my boyfriend are friends) The first month my boyfriend never wanted to cuddle. We didn't kiss as much and wasn't lovey Dovey. For the past few weeks he's been cuddly, wanting kisses, and being all lovey Dovey. He have had a few incidents I wouldn't call it cheating cause we was broken up at the time. But he had started dating an ex when me and him broke up and he told me he was done with me. I asked him to come over later that night when we broke up he didn't want to but I mentioned that my daughter was looking for him and calling his name. So he came back. I figured that since he came back was was back together. When I found out he was dating his ex I was devastated! Most of my friends and my mom and step dad hated him. It was a huge fight. He said that he was sorry for what he did and that he should have told me he was dating her instead of leading me on and staying with me when we had been broken up. After everything that happened he was telling me and everyone else that he was going to prove that he can make things right. He said that no matter how hard things got he wasn't backing down nor leaving me and my daughter. So now things are going very great, Better then ever! But I can't figure out why he is acting like he is, with the whole reading texts, messages on fb etc. He added me back on fb and put me as a close friend so he can see everything I do on fb like what I like, comment, who add and everything! Any idea of why he's starting to be this way when he didn't used to?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (9 April 2013):
 How did you even get to break up in less than two months ?? Half of which, spent arguing and hating each other ? why even bothering, if this is the start ?
And how come that , in less than two months and in such tempestous circumstances, your daughter has to got to be so attached to him ?? she should not even have SEEN him yet,seen the circumstances.
Anyway : many, or most , people measure others by the meter of what they would do themselves. The most jealous people in the world are those who cheat , the most suspicious those who lie and swindle. Maybe your bf has done something he needs to be forgiven for, or , simply, he knows that , given the occasion, he would do X or Y- so he does not trust you not to do X or Y.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (9 April 2013):
 It's ONLY been 2 months and you already have all these issues? Seems like it's either going to take EXTREME amount of work or end it.
It shouldn't BE this hard after ONLY 2 months. It should still be the "honeymoon phase".
It doesn't sound healthy at all. He doesn't trust you (hence all the checking up on you) and YOU don't trust him.
Also to be frank I think it's WAY early to introduce him to your child. GET to know a guy and decide if he is a long term GOOD guy before introducing him to your daughter.
AND YOU can decide what he can and can not see on your FB, not him.
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