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writes: okay, so here it goes. I have this Horribe problem. im 17, and I have this Amazing, most wonderful boyfriend in the world. Hi name is Greg, and His 19. And my name is liz : pI have this bratty lil sister, named clair. and well. ok here it goes. We dated for like 8 months, and after the 3rth month, he has been wanting to stay and spend time in my house, more than usuall. Which is weird, bc my house is completey boring. He is always helping in the kitchen. He is always there to help out my famiy. Dont get me wrong, I like him around the house, and I like the fact that he isnt so distant from my family. But thats not the problem. A week ago, my sister came up to me, telling me this really weird thing. She told me that Greg had a really major crush on my mom. WTF?? I mean she isnt that old, shes 37, and shes beautiful, but Fuck, thats my mom and my boyfriend, and sure I didnt believe her at first, but after a whie, it kinda made sense, everything got added. I mean. It would be possibe why, he always wants to spend time at my house, in the kitchen, where my mom cooks and cleans.!!! So I told her to stop telling me these weird, bizzare things, even tho I believed her. What a suprise... 1 month later, he breaks up with me!! maybe bc I told him what my sister told me. I mean was I not suppose to?? Hello I wana know for sure. But I stilled loved him even if he did have this stupid little crush on my mom. I told him i wanted him to be my first. I love him to death. But big shocker! he broke up with me, I was crying for days. Remember my bratty ssiter? Clair?? well, Their going out, as we speak!! MY 16 year old SISTER, is going out with the one guy I loved my whole life!! Are you serious!! So i went up to her and demaned some answer, but all she said was. " Your lose, for teling him that stupid shit... him liking mom? " Are you fuckin serious.!! I felt the world collapsing in on me. So I did the very best thing I could. I told my mother. And guess what!!.. she was okay with everything that went on!! I dont know what to do anymore!!! Im soo lost. my mother my sister. i dont even know who they are anymore!! Someone please help me!! Why doesnt my mother care, why is my sister like this?? I mean sure that was the bitchy move, but I cant do anything but cry. Please if someone knows anything, to fill in the gaps. please. just help me!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2010): This is probably bad edvice but.… if my sister EVER did anything like that I'd say fuck u. Then I would go to my mother and tell her what kinde of example she's setting for the little sister, how bad of a mother she's being, THEn I would go lock myself in the shower and think about this relationp I had with this guy. During that AMZING shower (probably filled with crying and some swearing) I hope I'd realize how amazing I am and how I don't deserve anything like that from anyone! This man is no good and I hope u see that. Once u do getting over him should be easier. Then go out and have fun! Live like there us no tomorrow. Keep ur friends close and just enjoy everything worth enjoying
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (24 August 2010):
 It's clear to me that your boyfriend liked your sister not your mom hence why he broke up with you for her. Your sister played you. Plus he's not the amazing guy you think he is, sorry. Do you and your sister have a competitive relationship? If so then I can see why she took your boyfriend. That doesn't make it right she still stabbed you in the back and what do you expect your mom to do scold her? Your mom would be playing favorites then, she's remaining neutral on this one. Your sister is to blame on this one, but your ex played a significant role as well. She's going to get satisfaction when she can get a reaction out of you, in other words you getting mad and jealous that she's now with him. So put on your best acting face and pretend it doesn't bother you, in fact you forgot that they were together much less existed. That will surely bother this manipulative little girl. Think of it this way, you're better off without him you can do better, and I'm pretty certain he's going to dump your sister sooner or later. So karma is a bitch and she will get hers, it's only a matter of time!
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reader, SueZ  +, writes (24 August 2010):
Hey, have to agree with fatherly advice. Seriously! If you don't have the kind of relationship where you can share stuff, then he is not the one you deserve. You can do better
As for your sister... well you can't chose your relatives... but I would certainly not trust her with anything any more. Anyway, she started that relationship on a lie... so I doubt it will end well.
Your mum? Ah well, you can get to 37, be beautiful, uncompassionate and a bad role model. She is demonstrating that she thinks it is OK for your sister to manipulate and lie to get a boyfriend. Well, I would say that is a very very bad life lesson. You are already wiser than her.
Only one thing to do... respect yourself. Realise he is not worth it. Rise above the petty examples set by your family, and go out there and have some fun... some time soon a new and even better man will come into your life. Be confident. Be positive.
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reader, Fatherly Advice + ♥, writes (24 August 2010):
 #1, finish filling out your blame sheet. There is someone else who betrayed you but you are letting him off the hook.
He is a cheating skirt chaser with no concern for his partners. You really need to stay away from him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2010): WOW. thats really tough. I think you should sit down with everyone, and just talk it out. because thats not normal, for all you know, your sister could be sleeping with him. and what if your sister had a crush on him too, while you were dating her? so she set you up, and made you two break up!!?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2010): Wow. That's a lot to deal with. That's like three different break-ups. First of all, I want to say GET OVER HIM. He is going out with your 16 year old little sister, come on! And if he really did like your mom that's even grosser. You may feel like your in love but he played you, and still plays you, big time. Accepting the fact that he's a jerk may help you.
Second, talk to your mom again. First of all, it's not her fault that he liked her or your sister. So try to blame her. But tell her that it is her responsibility to parent you guys, and your sister definitely still needs parenting. And aren't you a little worried that your sister will get hurt to? Obviously this guy is just out for girls not a serious relationship. Tell your mom how to feel about him.
Third of all, talk to him. Tell him how much he hurt you and still hurts you. Even if he doesn't listen or thinks your crazy, telling him he's a jerk will deflate his ego which will make him feel bad. Under no circumstances tell him that your sad he left you. That will only make him feel all mighty and powerful. You don't want to win him back, you want to reason with him to lay off the chicks in your house.
If non of this works, I suggest telling your dad. Your dad, if he's around and a good one, wants to protect you, your mom, and your sis. He might cut off the relationship between your ex and your sister which will take care of the problem. You might even want to get a counselor and make your mom and sister come to the appointments. Concentrate not on your ex but on how much it hurts that you can't trust them anymore. Isn't that the part that stings the most?
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