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writes:Dear aunty. I'm a young lady who is in late 20's and I got married at the age of 20 as a second wife to my husband who is 13 years older than me. At the beggining all was well but now I fell lonely as I have to be and do what he thinks is the best for the marriage. He is a good man but this days I know longer fell the passion I had for him and a divorce is out of question as we are christians and my family won't approve of. I'm scared of the way I fell and I fell like one of this days I will have a wondering eye which is 100% wrong. Plz help me because I do love my family and I can't ruin my kids future with my fooliness.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (18 October 2013):
 What would happen if you acted on what YOU thought was right, even if he didn't agree with it? What would he say or do?
What is stopping you from doing that now?
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (18 October 2013):
 A second wife means he divorced and remarried, or is this polygamy? Strange because Christians don't do polygamy and it's not legal in your country. If he divorced before why can't you?
You have to be and do what he thinks is best, does that mean you stay at home all day looking after children, and not allowed to have friends?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2013): I know of no christian faith that puts the burden of decision making squarely only on the mans shoulders. You have a right to input your feelings and concerns. Sit him down and talk with him and tell him what you are not happy about. Be clear and tell him things are going to change or he can take and stuff the marriage. You do not have to be tied to a life of slavery to some man without passion and love. This is almost as bad as slavery. You are not ruining your future for your kids. There is a thing called child support. If things do not change get the hell out of this marriage. Do not wait another day to take action.
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