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writes:Hello! I am curious to know - are there ANY married women out there who would put up with a cheating husband? If so, do you pretend not to know what's going on behind your back? Do you take care of your children and ignore his lies and betrayals? Or is your marriage so open that he knows that you know but he continues to have a mistress because he knows you don't care? Or is this when he stops the affair because then he's not "cheating" anymore?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2010): I am just going thru this as we speak with a husband of 24yr. I am financially independent and I find myself asking the same question, should I stay or take off. Our children are in colleges so I don't need to worry about young kids. I don't think I am still "in love" w/ him but I definitely care about him. It is hard not to care about someone after over 20yrs. He asked to give him a chance to make it up to me. I think if I plan my actions right, my marriage will have a chance and I will get a caring husband back. I don't consider this as "putting up" with a cheating husband. It is an effort to put two used-to-be-in-love persons back together. I know I may be putting myself in a more vulnerable position but the result could be rewarding and I'd like to give it a try. Having said that, although I am vulnerable again, I make sure financially I am protected so that I may end up w/ a broken heart, at least I don't end up on the street w/ a broken heart.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (3 February 2010):
 If you didn't care, you would ask. So you care and therefor can't ignore it.
Read the female responses of woman who are cheated on, do you want to end up like that?
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (3 February 2010):
 It is fairly common in this part of the world but part of the deal is that the lead wife has to be no 1 and not lose face. When Taiwanese businessmen are posted to the mainland often their wives prefer to stay in Taiwan with the children. They take it as read that their husbands are going to have one or more mistresses in China and so it is typical for them to require their husbands to have a vasectomy before relocating. They don't want any illegitimate children becoming a financial burden or threatening the status of their children.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2010): My husband cheats... I despise him inside. Our relationship is like poison to my system. When he gets home from work, I feel like a load has just been put on my shoulders. I travel a lot to keep out of his way and we hardly talk. He is loving towards me but he knows I know and therefore I can't love him back. Last week a female called at midnight and I answered his phone coz he was sleeping.. she asked for him. When he got off the phone..I smashed it against the wall and simly said..."Pls tell your b****s not to call in the middle of the night?" We also don't have sex! Its a shambles...if you have a way out...Hunny TAKE IT!!!!!!!!
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (3 February 2010):
 I too know a couple of women aware of their hubby's extra marital affairs, ... but (like the prior posts) the women put up and shut up because of the lifestyle remaining with them provides. Both tho have a coldness towards their husbands, all romance has died, and so has the sexlife.
Bottom line, They stay to hang on to the money, ...and the men also stay to hang on to the money. Evil blooming stuff that it is!
If your not loaded and not providing a woman with lavish spending spree's, holidays, fancy cars, catalog homes, then chances are they will just kick the guys sorry arse to the curb.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (3 February 2010):
When I found out my ex was cheating I couldn't accept it and left him; but my friend is married to a man who has about 10 mistresses (seriously) and of those about 5 of them have children by him. She hates it but she stays because she lives in a mansion, drives a Bentley, got a Rolls Royce for her birthday and travels the world by private jet. I think women ask themselves how much they are getting out of the relationship in the first place. Most women want faithfulness, love and affection regardless of his financial status. But if he is loaded and cheats then there is more reason to stay. My friend says its better to have a rich guy cheat on you than a broke guy because at the end of the day they all cheat. Tiger Woods wife isnt going anywhere.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2010): My husband has constant affairs. I am aware of them and don't like it but I have children and my husband is a very high earner so for the home comforts and material trappings I put up with it. I have sold my soul.
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